Admitting a Pregnancy Wasn't Planned

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gracep117 — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 21:26:08 GMT

I have the opposite situation. Everyone thinks my first child was unplanned (I guess the quickie elopement gave them that idea), but in fact she was planned. We didn't think we'd get it right on the first try and were in the process of planning the wedding when bam, it happened. It was easier to let people think I was marrying due to an unplanned pregnancy than explain to them that I was engaged to someone I had known for 3 weeks.

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Nicole — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 14:50:41 GMT

Both of mine were undeniably unplanned- but never unwanted. I think that's the big qualifier.

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Dana — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 02:42:42 GMT

Mine was totally unplanned...I found out I was pregnant the day we were going to go and do divorce papers...seems like that pity/maintenance sex was more productive than I thought...talk about uncomfortable...having to go and tell everyone, "Hey! We're not getting a divorce anymore! Oh yeah, and I'm pregnant!" Yeah...tons of questions about how that one happened.

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Larissa — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 21:23:49 GMT

I had a friend many years ago who was doing public health research and found that many women who are in the military state that their pregnancy was unplanned (and then go on not to get early prenatal care). Something to do with living in a man's world or somesuch.

My 2nd was planned, we thought we weren't pregnant then decided it would be better to wait then found out we WERE pregnant. A planned unplanned baby.

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Yvie — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 20:26:30 GMT

My first baby was unplanned. Everybody knows that but anyway, I am glad that a lot of methods of birth control are now available. I really don't know what to say about this. Whether it is planned or unplanned, the most important thing is to take responsibility to your actions. :)

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Liane (same name, different commenter) — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 18:09:25 GMT

There's a big difference between unplanned and unwanted, and I think that's the distinction that exists between people in a committed relationship who welcome children, and teenagers who don't take the proper precautions. My second pregnancy was quite a surprise, but it ended up being the right thing to happen to us. Needless to say, my husband will be getting a little snip-snip after this one!

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Liane — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 17:38:25 GMT

I'm sorry, but if you get to unplanned pregnancy #3 or 4 and still haven't figured it out, you may be a little dense. But seven?? You're a freakin' moron.

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Mom2Two — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 16:50:02 GMT

My second was sort of unplanned. We were using FAM for birth control, knew I was fertile and chose to do it anyway, knowing that I might get pregnant.

Whenever I mention that she was unplanned, people get all weird and nervous. I think the idea that unplanned pregnancies only happen to stupid girls is still very much alive.