Just Say No

re: Just Say No

Sherry — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 02:08:23 GMT

Oh, yes, we must never be negative and use the N word.

I use "no, don't..." then point out what they can do. To use the above example, "No! Don't throw the ball in the house. Roll it on the floor." If they continue doing what I told them not to then there are consequences.

"no" like anything else will be ignored if there is no follow through or consistence. I am not concerned about being negative as the rest of the world isn't going to wrap life up in a sweet sugarcoating of positivity for my kids.

re: Just Say No

Ella — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 01:14:22 GMT

Distraction, and most importantly, tell them what you DO want them to do.

EX: Instead of, "Don't throw that!"

say: "Roll the ball please."

or "Let's go outside and throw the ball."

Young children can't always figure out what else to do when they're in the process, ball in hand, target eyeballed. Help a kid out.

re: Just Say No

Manjari — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 19:58:39 GMT

I actually like the Redbook article, and I do think those ideas work well with my children. It just helps to steer them in the right direction in a positive way most of the time. I have fallen into the trap of saying no too often, and I just don't enjoy the sound of myself saying it. When I try to use the word sparingly, I think it gets more notice (depending on the way I say it).

re: Just Say No

froggemom — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 19:15:37 GMT

I think a firm No with some distraction or other option work wonders for little ones. At least in our house. We do work hard to not tell the kid No 400 times a day, but that's more by being a litlte flexible with our expectations.

re: Just Say No

nic — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 18:42:47 GMT

In my neck of the urban woods, a stop sign doesn't mean sqwat.

re: Just Say No

Sue — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 18:17:29 GMT

Gee I dunno. A stop sign doesn't lose effectiveness to drivers just because it's used a lot. I think "no" might lose its effectiveness because a parent may not always follow through with the end result (taking the toy away, removing the child, etc).