10 Signs that Parenting is More Equal than it Used to be

re: 10 Signs that Parenting is More Equal than it Used to be

Polina — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 16:41:47 GMT

While diaper changing is our family was totally up to me, visits to doctors and dentists are our Dad's duty... He is much more patient, and understanding... and much better mommy than me (may be cause she adores her Dad and is always agree to do whatever he asks her of... if I am asking her of just anything - she starts battling with me...)

re: 10 Signs that Parenting is More Equal than it Used to be

Ingrid — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 05:06:19 GMT

Different strokes for different folks. While there are some parenting truths, none of then involed who should do what. Every family has different situation and different needs, the family needs to work out what's best for them.

Having said that, I completely agree wiht TRESMOMMY, more power to eqaulity in parenting, it takes to make a baby, it should take to two to raise one. I particularly loathe the stament in CRUCNCHYMOMMY's post about "women HAVE[ing] to work" like those of use who WANT to work and have a life in a space we can call our own are somehow because we are doing something we don't have to.

re: 10 Signs that Parenting is More Equal than it Used to be

TresMommy — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 22:44:09 GMT

crunchymommy, are you serious? my husband may be the primary bread winner, but I can tell you for sure, he has changed tons of diapers, made tons of bottles, and given plenty of baths. A father not being involved in the raising of his children is a HUGE injustice to the child. BOTH parents have something to offer. Get off your high horse and recognize the truth of it all. . One day your kids will remember Daddy never being there, and one day your husband will regret never knowing his children. Hope your ok with that.

re: 10 Signs that Parenting is More Equal than it Used to be

dooberheim — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 22:43:47 GMT

Few men can afford to take a leave of absence from their jobs to take care of children. mamaof1 is very lucky.

One thing people have to do is get their finances in such a state that they can live on one income. Then having a parent (doesn't matter which parent (although for most women it does)) stay home with the kids is OK. This often involves an austerity that most younger American women are not comfortable with. However, it is an arrangement which raised many of your parents...

re: 10 Signs that Parenting is More Equal than it Used to be

mamaof1 — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 22:03:31 GMT

My husband carries half the responsibility of raising our child. He is a wonderful, gentle person and our son will grow up knowing that we both love him. I spent the first year of our son's life at home with him. In Oct, my husband will take a year off and raise our little boy. I cannot imagine a better situation.

re: 10 Signs that Parenting is More Equal than it Used to be

anonymous — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 17:17:51 GMT

crunchymommy: Wow. Do what you feel is right, but lay off the judgment.

re: 10 Signs that Parenting is More Equal than it Used to be

crunchymommy — Sat, 12 Jul 2008 23:38:38 GMT

umm... I know that I don't fit the "modern" mom mold, but I still think that raising the kids is the job of mommy. And that line of most mothers are happy to leave primary caretaking to the men? I'm sorry but if you aren't willing to raise your own kids....

I understand that some women HAVE to work, I really do and I admire women who do what they have to to support the family. However, I still believe that women should be the childrens primary care giver. I have three children, and I'll tell you, my husband NEVER changes a diaper, has NEVER gotten up in the night to feed or change the baby, and that's okay, he works three jobs. So in short, I don't agree with this aritcal at all.

re: 10 Signs that Parenting is More Equal than it Used to be

1st time mom — Sat, 12 Jul 2008 19:52:48 GMT

It's my Husband & my first child. when we first took our son home form the hospital. while driving home we were smelling something funning in the car. we i turn my head where our son is, he have gone on the diaper. i agree & told my husband well it's our first time changing diapers and i will watch you do it. we both look at each other and started laughing. at the end my husband end up changing the diaper.

re: 10 Signs that Parenting is More Equal than it Used to be

Jennifer Griola — Sat, 12 Jul 2008 17:34:34 GMT

This post reminded me of a funny thing that happened when our 12 month old was just a few days old. My hubby had her in a sling and she was sound asleep, he went into a men's room and a bunch of guys in their early 20's were looking at him like he had 3 heads (they thought it was a costume or something)--they were a little rambunctious and apparently one of the guys said--"yo dudes you gotta be quiet--he's got a little baby in there" and they instantly all looked at him with admiration! Did I mention the sling is lime green!

re: 10 Signs that Parenting is More Equal than it Used to be

steffmarcusky — Sat, 12 Jul 2008 01:45:43 GMT

My kid's first word was Daddy, and yet we share parenting - I work 8:30-2:30, DH works 3-midnight.

re: 10 Signs that Parenting is More Equal than it Used to be

megymelly — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 20:24:55 GMT

Along the same lines, I want to give a shout out to Ikea and stores like them, who provide "family restrooms", where ANYBODY, Mom, Dad, or Grandpa, can go change the baby, while minding the toddler - the one we visited last week even had a little sink so you don't have to hoist your kid up to have them wash their hands. I love not always being the one who has to go change the baby!

re: 10 Signs that Parenting is More Equal than it Used to be

Edgy Mama — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 19:43:50 GMT

"...more men are increasingly taking the childrearing reigns."?

Is there a copy editor in the house?

Otherwise, nice list. I do love that more and more men's rooms feature diaper changing tables.