Is Mandy Moore Being a Homophobe or a Normal Daughter?

re: Is Mandy Moore Being a Homophobe or a Normal Daughter?

Daisy — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 23:12:29 GMT

She has every right to feel angry and betrayed. However, it is her brother's wedding and if he wants to invite his mother Mandy shouldn't be so selfish as to boycott because of his decision. She is more than welcome to ignore and avoid her mother but she shouldn't ruin her brother's day just because he wants his mother there.

re: Is Mandy Moore Being a Homophobe or a Normal Daughter?

Shannon LC Cate — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 14:31:27 GMT

You gotta give kids going through this a good decade before you declare them homophobes. I've read oodles of personal accounts of grown kids who went through this and it is really hard on them--even if they later realize it was all necessary or that their parents had no choice but to be closeted, etc. It feels very much like a betrayal.

Which is yet another good reason to support the rights and family formations of queers--so that no one ever feels the need to hide and live a lie again.

re: Is Mandy Moore Being a Homophobe or a Normal Daughter?

Laura — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 14:26:23 GMT

She has every right to do this (if it's true). I've known people who haven't invited a straight parent to the wedding because that parent broke the marital vows and left the other parent for another partner. It IS a betrayal, and if parents break certain vows that they are supposed to honor, thus injuring their children, they no longer have a "right" to be a part of their child's life. Especially, perhaps, at a wedding, where the point is to concentrate on one's spouse, loved ones, and to just have FUN.

Further, no one should be forced to accept another's homosexual relationship if they object to it on moral grounds. To force someone to do so in the name of "tolerance" is, ironically, INTOLERANT. If one parent acts out in a lifestyle that he/she has always condemned as immoral (even if they didn't mean it and were 'forced' to by circumstances), his/her child has every right to call him/her out on it.