Babble Talk: Attachment Parenting Author Thinks We Over-Parent

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Kia — Tue, 17 Apr 2007 22:01:47 GMT

<I>I think of attachment parenting as conscious, FAMILY-centered parenting. And a baby's needs are very different from a 6 year old's needs. We run into problems when we don't adjust our parenting to the age and needs of the child.

My main point in the article was that parents should relax and enjoy the journey more. We are making it much harder than it needs to be.<I>

And I think that your point was well made. But as an extended breastfeeding, homebirthing, no spanking type I always have my panties in a premature twist whenever I see the words attachment parenting,lol

Seriously I'm always happy to read about AP parents with older children. The ideas of flexibility, growth and parenting on a continuum are ones that new and expecting parents should hear lots about.I'm fortunate that my mom (unknowingly) raised us with a decided AP bent and continued to evolve. She gave me a wonderful example as to how one creates a family while parenting individual children.

Best of luck with your new book

Kia

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viciousrumours — Tue, 17 Apr 2007 18:39:11 GMT

While I do admit to having a five point harness for the three year old (Hey, it keeps him from darting out into traffic. He gets to walk, I don't have to chase...I'm happy, he's happy...) I don't do the "No, don't..." follow...wipe...santatize...routine.

We have a couple of friends that are raising what will surely be a neurotic, socially awkward child. He's coddled, mollified, patted, carried, wiped, protected at every turn. Public school is going to be a nightmare for this little guy. We only invite them over every now and then because I can't stand to listen to the kid whine when my little boy tries to play with him and he gets "overwrought" by the "rough" play. *insert eye roll here*

The simple rule at my house: If it isn't going to kill them or teach them a permenantly bad thing (IE: something you shouldn't do in public) I pretty much ignore it. Dirt won't kill you. Jumping off the back of the couch might leave a mark, but nothing I can't kiss better. Clothes can be washed and crayone WILL come off the wall.

We all managed to survive without bike helmets, knee pads or hand sanitizer...I'm sure our kids will too.

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RachelZ — Tue, 17 Apr 2007 16:18:53 GMT

Thank you SO MUCH for this article. My parents raised me with benign neglect, and I'm doing the same with my daughter. She's only 9 months old, so I do have to spend a great deal of time and energy on her, but I don't ever want to be the mommy on the playground who says "no, don't, stop - you'll get hurt/dirty/maimed." Unless she's attempting to swan dive off of the monkey bars (do they even have those anymore?) I hope I'm able to relax enough to let her find her own way.

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katie allison granju — Tue, 17 Apr 2007 15:16:05 GMT

<I>A child centric household in which everything is centered around the child's happiness, in which the the child's saftery as well as it's whims are considered to trump anything and everything else in the family is bound to cause difficulties at some point. No matter the parenting philosophy</I>

I totally agree.

I think of attachment parenting as conscious, FAMILY-centered parenting. And a baby's needs are very different from a 6 year old's needs. We run into problems when we don't adjust our parenting to the age and needs of the child.

My main point in the article was that parents should relax and enjoy the journey more. We are making it much harder than it needs to be.

-Katie

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Kia — Tue, 17 Apr 2007 14:58:04 GMT

I definitely think that there is some truth to what Katie Allison Granju is saying but hate to think that some people will equate attachment parenting alone esponsible for these hyper vigilant, scheduling helicoptering parents.

I've heard and seen similar anecdotes from a broad range of familes with diverse parenting styles, Ezzo led being one of them

A child centric household in which everything is centered around the child's happiness, in which the the child's saftery as well as it's whims are considered to trump anything and everything else in the family is bound to cause difficulties at some point. No matter the parenting philosophy

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Kristen — Tue, 17 Apr 2007 14:21:14 GMT

I wouldn't call myself a helicopter parent nor would I say I bubble wrap my kid, but I think there is something to be said about "the times have changed."

It's not like it was when we were kids. If you misbehaved at school, chances are you would hear about it at home. These days, parents defend their kids' brattyass behavior.

That's just a small, and fairly crappy example.

My point is, it's all fine and dandy for folks to say "Hey lay off, take it easy, don't worry as much" but I think it's easier said than done when our world is little more dangerous, a little less healthy, and way crazier.

Boy. I'm such a optimist, huh?