5 Reasons Wives Do More Housework

re: 5 Reasons Wives Do More Housework

TheDoctor — Fri, 02 May 2008 16:00:22 GMT

From a man:

I have gone from saddened to absolutely sick and tired of hearing how men never do enough housework. My wife and I both work full time and for several years (no children) I do literally most of the housework, almost all the cooking and shopping and bills. THEN my wife reads romance novels and expects I will be in the mood .... because I am a man and of course that is all we want.

Ladies, a word of advice. Don't let this become the case in your home. She does not get what she wants because I feel unappreciated, imasculated, etc and in fact I resent her sexual advances because of this.

Quit stereotyping males. There are far more of us who do our share or more than you think.

re: 5 Reasons Wives Do More Housework

AllisonWonder — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 10:47:21 GMT

I don't mind clutter, but for some reason I still do most of the housework... Probably because cleanibg up is easier than listening to him complain about it.

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Doppelganger — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 04:27:26 GMT

Dana, my husband pulls Shit Patrol in our house, too. Toddler, baby, dog and cat. I feel for him sometimes, but I'm responsible for everyone's fuel input. I refuse to take on output, too.

As for dividing the rest of our household chores, I'm a bit of a neat freak, and my husband's a bit of a clean freak (the two are NOT the same), so things work out okay in our house.

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steffmarcusky — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 00:45:08 GMT

Our family is backwards, too, because I'm the slob and he does most of the housework

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Cassie — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 20:26:54 GMT

I have a friend who is an artist who lives in a loft where he has to share a bathroom with another guy in the next loft. Get this, he has ONE towel he uses over and over. Here is the kicker, the neighbor uses it too! Needless to say they are both sick a lot and very, very thin probably from the rampant diarrhea they lovingly hoarde in their intestines. If it were not for women men would run naked, screwing everything in site and die from eating rotten food or living in germy conditions. I asked my mom once why men start wars and she said "Because they are expendable." Hehe.

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kendrabobendra — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 19:30:59 GMT

I'm clean and my husband is tidy...I don't mind a stack of papers if it's neat and I know what is there, but that drives him crazy (though his clothes laying on the floor on his side of the bed are apparently below his "tidy" radar). On the other hand, he will wash an entire sink-load of dishes, and the counter, table and stovetop WITHOUT SOAP - I'm sure that will be cringeworthy to primarily the women reading this. Of course what really makes me cringe about that is how the sponge gets left languishing in the crud left in the bottom of the sink - but his mother does that, too, so apparently it is genetic, or how he was raised, or some combination of both...

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km — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 17:37:00 GMT

Wait...someone is supposed to dust?

I think we split things kinda evenly--I tend to do the laundry and dishes (unless there's a ton of dishes and then I stop when the dish rack is full and let him finish the rest), he takes care of the garbage/recyclables. We both vacuum, although the first time I asked him to vacuum in our new place, he literally just did the area rugs, completely ignoring the giant dust bunnies in the corners of the wood floors.

I think in our six years together, he has cleaned the bathroom twice. Once after each son was born, and I refused to leave the hospital unless he cleaned our bathroom first. I'm due with our third son (eight days over-due, actually), so I expect he'll be able to chalk up a third bathroom cleaning any day now.

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coolteamblt — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 16:41:20 GMT

I'm going to have to chime in with the other ladies about number three. My husband is a total neatfreak too. I spent the morning mopping the kitchen once. Twenty minutes later, he's on his knees with 409 and a sponge hitting spots he thinks he sees when his nose is inches from the floor. My face should never be that close to the floor! Those teeny spots don't bother me.

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Mike Adamick (Cry It Out!) — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 16:15:21 GMT

The last one really nailed it, Cole. (I just finished doing the dishes -- for the second time in one morning! How does that even happen?)

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MsC — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 15:14:58 GMT

I don't know if No 2 is really a gender thing, because it's reversed for us. My husband will say things like 'the house is a wreck' and I have to ask him what he's talking about, because it looks fine to me. In our case I think it's a lot to do with the houses we grew up in, his being far more orderly than mine. So our points of reference are different.

Note that this disparity does not always motivate him to do more about it than I do.

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Dana — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 13:25:34 GMT

I'm going to totally agree with number 3...if I wanted all of the towels to be shoved in the closet, allegedly clean dishes with crust still on them put back in the cabinet, or for someone to dust without actually moving anything on the shelf...I'd certainly ask my husband for help. But honestly it would just be less work for me to just do it myself...rather than following him around picking on his technique.

He's in charge of all things poo in the house...dogs, baby, toilets.

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Daisy Duck — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 13:12:08 GMT

The disarray tolerance comment sounds like me in both serious relationships I have, except reversed. Random piles of things don't bother me until they reach a certain level and I don't notice them. While I've been typing, my husband has started the laundry and picked up a piece of paper on the kitchen floor that I dropped but didn't notice. Fortunately, he doesn't seem to mind being the neat one as long as I handle some basic stuff on my own.