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BabyInBroad,

First, I love the tag name! So fab!

I am right there with you about the boy thing. We just found out we are having a boy after deperately wanting a girl. I almost had a nervous breakdown when we found out, while hubby is taking it a tad better. I wonder how I would have reacted at the birth if we didn't know. Would it be worse? Better? Can it be worse than the feelings I'm having right now?  

We also have a little more modern tastes when it comes to baby clothing and gear; that makes gift-giving very interesting. To combat the inevitable string of traditional boy clothing and gear, we're bypassing the standard Babies R Us and Target registries to register with a local boutique that carries miniature versions in brands similar to what we wear (Lucky Brand, Diesel, Juicy Couture, etc.). We've also enlisted a trusted friend's help to get the word out that we're not doing "baby boy traditional." If people want to get us anything, then they're encouraged to purchase from our boutique registry, buy something neutral (like white or chocolate onsies), or shower us with diapers. We're also encouraging them to purchase the traditional boy things and give them to charity. In fact, we're knocking around the idea of doing a charity baby shower, although we don't know how well that will go over.

And if it makes you feel any better, we're hoping that our next ultrasound will reveal a little girl. I'm certainly not convinced that Baby is a boy (swollen girl parts can mimic boy parts, right?). I've had way too many friends purchase a tons of blue because doctor was "100% positive it's a boy" only to need pink things at the moment of birth. (We can hope, can't we?)

Anyhoo, I'm glad to see that someone feels like I do about the gender. My friends have been bombarding me with all of the postive things about boys, but it's not sinking in because we had our hearts set on a sweet little girl. :-(

Blessings ... and a hug!

Wow!  I can't believe moms-to-be are upset over finding out they're having a boy when they really wanted a girl.  I can understand a moment or two of being bummed but to be upset, emotional ?  I guess I just don't get it.  I wanted a girl when I was pregnant.  When I found out I was carrying a boy I just said "oh, ok ... is everything else perfect (with a giggle)?"  It wasn't an easy pregnancy.  It was an even harder labor.  What was upsetting to me was finding out after I gave birth to my son that I would not be given the chance to have another.  Be happy with what ever God has given you - boy or girl - you don't know if this one will be your only one.  Yes, I see the tiny pink dresses and get a bit teary eyed.  Not because I'm upset I had a boy but because I can never try for a girl.

 Oh, and, boys a wonderful!!  They teach mommies how to get dirty and like it.  They don't argue over how to wear their hair for pictures.  They're happy even if the bugs are biting but the fish aren't.  They don't take your favorite pair of shoes and ruin them.  They grow up to be strong enough to help with the groceries.  They don't spend hours in the bathroom making sure they look perfect before they go to the beach.  Trust me, baby boys rule!  Just wait and see.

At least these people who want to find out the sex of their baby have actually been successful in finding out! I am 20 weeks pregnant and unfortunately baby did not want to co-operate in my ultrasound last week. The doctors actually had the nerve to say to me "Looks like you'll have to do like they did in historical times and wait til January when it's born". It didn't really occur to me that I might be walking away that day, still completely in the dark about whether it's a boy or girl. That I didn't prepare myself for it mentally caused so much disappointment and upset that I wanted to re-schedule another ultrasound, but now feel it would be stupid- the baby is healthy and that's all that matters. I took it as a sign and am going to wait it out, despite the fact I would love to know now and am worried about how I am going to feel the day I give birth- being my first, it is such an unsure and slightly scary time, and when you are already going through so much emotionally on the day, isn't it all too much to take in all at once?

My fiance and I desperately wanted to find out- the suspense is killing us and we believe it would make narrowing down names easier, as well as choosing to buy clothes before it is born- I am not particularly fond of green and yellow and if I knew it was a girl (for example), I wouldn't hesitate in buying the cute pink tops I am seeing everywhere. This is not to say I don't want a boy but I have found I am leaning slightly more towards wanting a girl, and if only I could have found out before the birth what sex the baby is, I could get on with things and be more accepting; boy or girl. I really will be happy when the time comes no matter what the sex, but it doesn't help when your Aunt comes back from a three-month trip across the Australian outback and returns with a gorgeous little handmade dress. My entire family all seem to be hoping for a girl and I almost feel like everyone will be disappointed if I give birth to a boy. I just wish I knew now so I can tell everyone and I (and they) can get on with it.

I found out the sex of my oldest child and it was great to be prepared.  I felt like I was in control of something.  I was able to decorate the room in the appropriate gender colors and buy clothing that was appropriate.

 With my second and third children... I didn't find out.  I needed something (a suprise) to get me through the pregnanacy.  It was fun NOT knowing. 

What ever you decide it will be the right thing for you!

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 I'd find ot the sex and I like the approach that you gave.  Then you have a nice memory of how and when you found out the sex, instead of at the impersonal doctors office.  

I didn't find out with my daughter and I was shocked because I just "knew" I was having a boy! Too much is going on the "birth day" and I think it's better emotionally to be prepared. 

i only knew "for sure" with baby #7 (we lived in major urban centers where they wouldn't tell you with the other six), and even then i cautioned my 3 yo that "doctors can be wrong"... honestly - i wouldn't find out with any more babies.  It just bugged me that *someone* (the u/s tech) knew, and i didn't... but i didn't like having that drama taken away at the birth :) - i like finding out by pulling a little baby up out of the birth pool and checking it out for myself :)  It may be different for me, as i've already got 3 girls and 4 boys - if we have more, i don't care if they are boys or girls, they are all such cool people, it really doesn't matter to me

For me I didn't want to know. We have so many advanced in medicine and technology and all for very good reason (address health issues, prepare for difficult birth, etc etc), but I couldn't think of a really good reason *why* I needed know. Finding out the sex is relatively a new option and I wanted to keep the surprise since there just seemed to be few suprises left. I was shocked at how many people were upset that we didn't find out (and vocalized it like I was inconveniencing them by not giving them a color pallette to choose from for gifts). I'm of the mindset that we would find out soon enough, we didn't care about colors/themes, and what a great moment to finally hear the sex right before actually meeting my baby (girl, btw).

Oh, and those 4-D ultrasounds totally freak me out too - I could wait until my birth day to see the details, I didn't want to see such clear features while she was in the womb. I know someone who had one only because she felt no strong love/bond for the baby-in-progress and thought that seeing a face might make her feel better about the pregnancy.

I didn't find out for several reasons--one of them being financial. I knew that if I knew the sex--and if relatives knew the sex--we'd all spend way too much money on baby stuff we didn't need. (Infants dresses!) Also, it keeps people from buying you gender-specific clothes and toys (princess! sports!). My husband and I are talking about having a second baby and my husband now thinks he wants to know the gender. He says it's "to plan." Which I think is quite funny. To plan for what? We already know babies spend most of the time in onesies and pjs! The funny thing is, I never got the "it's a boy! it's a girl!" moment in the hospetal that I was so excited for. The baby (a boy) came so fast in the ER that I had to ask what it was. So for baby #2 I'm still hoping not to know so I can have my dleivery-room moment. = )

 We didn't find out, although I knew he was a he the whole time. I liked trusting my intuition. Also, there are only 2 choices (ideally), so how big a surprise could it be? I thought if it was boy, girl, or aardvark, finding out would be important. Pink or blue was not that compelling a reason.