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That was just lovely, thank you so much for sharing with us. It makes me sad to hear people say that celebrities steal babies. I think you really pointed out how difficult it can be regardless of your status.
posted by : spartic99 on 4/5/2007 at 1:33 AM Flag For Abuse
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That was very nice, well written and informative. I would love to read an essay from you on why you chose an overseas adoption. Perhaps you could ask your adoptive parents group as well. I've always wondered why couples choose to go so far away when there are so many children available for adoption here. I'm honestly not trying to be judgmental, I really just wonder why.
posted by : BettyWu on 4/6/2007 at 5:00 PM Flag For Abuse
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I'm a Mother of six. We adopted our two daughters from Guatemala. Our youngest daughter was just a infant when we brought her home, and our eldest daughter was 18 months old. The two adoptions were completely different. But through all the trials and tribulations, we are in a very great place.
Your story is true. Adoption can be such a tricky thing. Not just within our family, but within the entire world of adoption. Last month, our adoptions were complete. I had written a quick post about it. I never expected the backlash from the adoptee world. But it happened. I was surprised to say the least because these women did not know me or the history of my daughters. I was so sad. Then I got angry.
BettyWu: I have been asked your very question dozens of times. You can read HERE my reasons for choosing international adoption vs. Domestic adoptions. (I just need to point out that this was in response to the two day attack.)
Everyone has their own reasons for adoption. I believe in my heart as long as you respect your children for who they are and where they come from, respect their individuality, are patient during their time of questioning and love them unconditionally no matter what, you have a great chance that they will be the best and happiest person they can be.
But shouldn't we, as Mothers, be doing that anyways?
posted by : HeadMutha on 6/18/2007 at 9:49 PM Flag For Abuse
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What a great article. My aunt has 3 adopted children. One was adopted locally, and two are from Korea. They are all happy well-adjusted adults now. I don't think anyone regrets their adoption, not them, not their parents. One was severely abused at the orphanage she was in, and malnourished - they were unsure of her exact age. As an adult now, she has an IQ of about 50, but still - happy, sweet-tempered, and well-adjusted. I'm not sure she'd have done so well in her native country.
posted by : mchaos on 1/12/2009 at 11:33 PM Flag For Abuse
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What a beautifully written article, Melissa. You have a great way of sharing your experience while still being objective. That's not easy! Because I personally know the author, I get to see her numerous clips of dialogues with her daughters posted online. She has two unique, intelligent daughters who share so much with their mother. I find myself laughing at their inquisitiveness and insight.
posted by : heather d on 9/22/2009 at 9:36 PM Flag For Abuse
