feedback for "Non-Breeder 6: The Toddler Has No Clothes"

1. I agree about the judgmental tone of parents and non-parents. If diaperless works for you that's cool with me.   Here is what Dr. Berry Brazelton thought when I talked to him last year about potty training infants.   "It's nothing new. Every culture in the world that carries their babies...all mothers that carry their babies know when to hold them out and have them do it. The new thing is our adaptation because we aren't really equipped to carry our babies around all day. The thing that bothered me about this - using it as a new way of interacting with your child - was it makes mothers who can't be with their babies all the time feel guilty. And I think they feel guilty enough if they are having to leave them and go to work, things like that, which you know 80 percent of mothers are having to do."   Working Dad,

   posted by : WorkingDad on 5/14/2007 at 1:56 PM Flag For Abuse

2. If you want to let your child run around the house without clothes.. feel free. Do whatever makes you happy.
   
   But if you honestly think that either:
   
   A) You are bringing that pantless child near me
   or
   B) You are brining that child into my place of business
   
   Then you have lost your mind.
   
   Accidents will happen, and if they happen at work.. expect to get chewed out when the housekeeper shows up huffing and puffing. And if it happens at my house, don't be surprised when my wife serves you with a subpoena to cover our carpet replacement. You mine as well just be letting a toddler run around on the carpet with a glass of wine..

   posted by : Skeeter on 5/28/2008 at 11:29 PM Flag For Abuse

3. You gotta wonder how the child feels about all of this...it's not really respecting them, giving them privacy etc (outside of your own home, I mean). My aunt did this with her son, and he needed to poo when they were on a walk with her sister in her neighbourhood. So he pulled his pants down and prepared to go in the gutter. Her sister, slightly horrifed, said why don't we take him back home etc, but my aunt said, 'Nah, its fine,' let her son finish and scooped it up in a plastic bag, like you would a dog. I'm sorry, that I kinda have a problem with. That's out in public, people. That poor child. why exactly do parents do this? I'm a little confused..is it just so the child won't get nappy rash? If you put them on a potty or let them run around naked to pee in the garden at an early age, I don't think that teaching them to toliet train when thier bodies aren't ready for it (developmentally). Surely this would just prolong the process? You'd feel like you'd been toliet training for a thousand years. If you wait until they are ready, the process would go by much faster. That's just my opinion though.

   posted by : Maddie on 7/17/2008 at 4:36 PM Flag For Abuse

4. If the child is still pooping on the floor, then he's not any more trained than a kid wearing diapers or pull-ups. He's not going when she asks him to, she is making noises when he was already going to go anyway. Sounds like she's being trained to me. Kids will be trained when they're ready.

   posted by : lilmissyny on 8/8/2008 at 10:17 PM Flag For Abuse

5. I like your perspective, to each his own! (Although it makes me think twice about laying on the floor in a rental house.) I just cannot imagine staring at my child every minute of every day looking for a facial expression.
   
   My son just developed a new facial expression (I think he's trying to wink). I'd probably still be holding him above the toilet in a panic.

   posted by : EG on 8/15/2008 at 9:18 PM Flag For Abuse

6. Seriously - no diapers mean you can't take your baby anywhere. Few friends or relatives will want you in their house, and you can't take them in public. It is illegal for people to defecate or urinate in public place in the US. And stores are unlikely to be amused if your baby poos in the freezer aisle.

   posted by : mchaos on 1/17/2009 at 8:11 PM Flag For Abuse

7. Elimination communication is pretty big in parts of Europe these days, from what I hear.  I've considered trying it with my second child, due in a few months.  It sounds from the above posts like a lot of people probably aren't too tolerant of the method, but when you consider the number of diapers you're not using... environmentally speaking, it makes a big difference.  But, as the first poster pointed out, only a select few mothers can be with their kid all the time, and if you're not with the kid all the time, someone else has to also pick up those cues, etc.  I see that as the biggest difficulty...

   posted by : km2v on 7/7/2009 at 10:44 PM Flag For Abuse