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  1. You listed "Mandarin only playgroups" on your "out" list, but you'll probably find more and more of this type of stuff going on. Nearly 47 million people, about 1/5 of all U.S. residents, speak another language at home. People are becoming aware of the research supporting the cognitive, practical and emotional benefits of speaking more than one language, and of how much easier it is to pick up a second (or third etc.) language while very young, and are making an effort to retain mother tongues (very different from the past ). It is, however, very challenging to raise a bilingual (or trilingual...) child within a dominant culture. I rely greatly on my Portuguese only playgroups to help me reinforce the language skills my child needs to communicate with her family in Brazil.

    posted by : sumoo on 7/8/2008 at 9:17 AM Flag For Abuse

  2. Wow! Surprising astute. Well done!

    posted by : beelerspace on 7/8/2008 at 1:18 PM Flag For Abuse

  3. Great article. Made me laugh aloud.

    posted by : OHK on 7/8/2008 at 8:56 PM Flag For Abuse

  4. Fantastic article! I was *totally* with you and loving it...until the elective C-section bit. Although I'm all for a woman's right to choose to have her baby wherever (hospital, birthing center, home), however (au natural, epidural, "silently" a la Katie Holmes), and by whomever (midwife, family physician, OB-GYN) they want, elective C-sections can be really risky -- for both moms *and* babies.

    For one, C-sections have been linked to pre-term births. That's because due dates can be way off. So when you schedule a C-section, you may end up giving birth several weeks or more before your baby is developmentally ready to come out. And that puts newborns at risk for delays in brain development, jaundice, and problems with feeding, breathing, and regulating their temperature.

    And although C-sections are so often considered no big deal, they are a major surgery that comes with serious risks (like increased bleeding and blood clots, injuries to mom and baby, infection). And it takes much longer to recover from a C-section than a vaginal birth. Don't get me wrong, lots of women really *need* and should get C-sections, especially in emergency situations, but I don't think getting one should be considered a woman's right. To me, that's just putting their lives -- and their babies' -- on the line just so they can schedule a convenient birth day.

    posted by : Mombo5 on 7/8/2008 at 9:03 PM Flag For Abuse

  5. I homeschool and so do most of my friends. None of us are Christians. We are really tired of the whole myth that only the religious homeschool. Actually they send them to Christian private schools. We all homeschool because our schools are failing. There is only a 53% graduation rate in our state. So, no, the schools are not getting better, they are getting worse. I am curious where you got that idea from anyway. Also letting children drink is dumb for a few reasons. Number one is their brains and internal organs cannot process and eliminate alcohol like an adults can. Their liver goes haywire. It takes about 1 hour for an adult to process a single drink form their body. It takes a child much longer to get rid of that same amount. 50% of Asian people lack a gene that enables them to break down alcohol. They become seriously ill and many die if they drink too much. Treatment for alcoholics was developed from research done on this gene and the resulting medication, Anatabuse, works exactly like the defective gene. Keith Moon, the drummer for The Who, died from drinking alcohol while on Antabuse therapy. The defective gene killed him. Since we are all so mixed up these days offering alcohol to a child is reckless. It is not European and cultured. We are not French and even the French discourage it based on health. Here is what is happening to your child when they ingest evne a small amount of alcohol.

    How does my liver process the alcohol?
    There are 2 ways that alcohol can be processed by your liver. Most alcohol is broken down, or metabolised, by an enzyme in your liver cells known as alcohol dehydrogenase (ADH). ADH breaks down alcohol into acetaldehyde, and then another enzyme, aldehyde dehydrogenase (ALDH), rapidly breaks down acetaldehyde into acetate. The acetate is further metabolised, and eventually leaves your body as carbon dioxide and water.

    A small amount of alcohol may be processed using a different set of enzymes in your liver. This alternative pathway, known as the ‘microsomal ethanol-oxidising system’ is mainly used when the level of alcohol in your blood is very high. Regular drinking can increase the activity of this second pathway.

    Why can’t some people tolerate alcohol?
    About 50 per cent of East Asian people have a genetic variation which means that their ALDH enzyme doesn’t work properly. These people can’t process alcohol in the normal way, and shortly after drinking alcohol their acetaldehyde level rises.

    Acetaldehyde is a toxic substance that can cause an unpleasant reaction when it builds up. Symptoms you might experience if your ALDH enzyme does not function properly include flushing of the face, hot sensations, nausea and palpitations (an awareness of your heart beating faster than normal).

    posted by : SDoyle on 7/8/2008 at 9:51 PM Flag For Abuse

  6. I think several of the outs are still in. Maybe not in NYC, but people in my area are just catching on to the trends of babywearing, extended breastfeeding, organic eating and elimination communication. I would say the biggest baby trend right now by far is babywearing. When my daughter was first born and even a few months ago I never ever saw another mom babywearing. Now I see moms not only with baby bjorns but Becos, slings and wraps! Making baby food is also in. We sold out of baby food mills where I work. The biggest out is stupid t-shirts. Instead handmade and custom baby clothes seem to be in.

    posted by : dhsredhead on 7/8/2008 at 10:05 PM Flag For Abuse

  7. I am sorry, but this whole elective C-section thing has really got to die the painful death it deserves. Being Canadian, where destructive lifestyles of some people impact the health care quality available for many is a reality, all I can say for people who cannot abide the thought of looking undignified during childbirth or, God forbid, actually experience pain, is GET OVER YOURSELF. I have no problem with folks who need them for medical reasons, but please, hire a surrogate if you are that self-centred. And if you really are that self-absorbed, perhaps having children really is not for you.

    posted by : Lisaloo on 7/9/2008 at 9:10 AM Flag For Abuse

  8. Don't take the article so serious; she's obviously kidding! There's no way the author really thinks an $1,100 stroller is a smart purchase or, god help me, a hand-me-down when Consumer Reports plainly rates both the Stokke and the Bugaboo behind a $120 stroller. It's just a status symbol. Just like the elective c-section with its higher rates of breathing complications, infant death, and hysterectomy for mom. She's being facetious. It's a cute, silly article.

    posted by : Smile on 7/9/2008 at 9:30 AM Flag For Abuse

  9. Hey there - attachment parenting is not "out!"

    Baywearing, breastfeeding, co-sleeping are all more popular than ever...

    -Katie Allison Granju

    posted by : katie allison granju on 7/9/2008 at 10:14 AM Flag For Abuse

  10. Attachment parenting PURITY is out. Jeez, Katie, didn't you write that article?

    I, for one, stopped babywearing when my baby hit 25 lbs at 7 months, never was able to get the boobs to work, and sleep far to heavily to have kept baby IN my bed.

    I feel very attached to my baby, tho.

    posted by : TRex on 7/10/2008 at 10:40 PM Flag For Abuse

  11. Holy cow! 25lbs at 7 months I feel for you. My tot hovers around that at 17 lbs and it's killing my back.

    Anyway, as a recent blog entry I read said, AP is all about process not results, which are the same no matter what you do if you are basically in a loving, secure family. It's like a really complicated recipe with lots of sensitive factors and you have to read a lot of books on the topic. I'd rather have the non-complicated chocolate chip cookie recipe which comes on the back of the package. That said, if you can benefit from one or more of the recommended activities, have at it. A friend feels like her tot is a different baby since they started co-sleeping. Great! Glad that worked, I'm still not doing it.

    Another thing I noticed on a thread in a forum on site other than this, a lot of the hardcore AP people had really crummy childhoods, so they think they are improving on what their parents were able to do ... which is probably true, but it seems like overkill. I had great parents so I don't see any need to improve on the model.

    posted by : WonderingWilla on 7/11/2008 at 1:11 AM Flag For Abuse

  12. It's K-I-N-D-E-R-G-A-R-T-E-N, not kindergarden. Ada, why don't you hire a proofreader, your site is riddled with such mistakes ALL THE TIME?

    posted by : grammarom on 7/13/2008 at 8:04 AM Flag For Abuse

  13. That would be a comma splice, grammarom.

    posted by : TRex on 7/13/2008 at 11:51 AM Flag For Abuse

  14. Babble doesn't pay me to comment. They pay others, however, who constantly make these sorts of mistakes. It smacks of unprofessionalism. No wonder Steve left.

    posted by : grammarom on 7/13/2008 at 5:43 PM Flag For Abuse

  15. Grammarom, thank you so much for catching that. Gwynne and I work really hard keep the site clean, but typos inevitably slip through from time to time. I'm a grammar fanatic, so one regrets these errors more than I do! Please feel free to email me at ada@babble.com about typos or any other problems you encounter on Babble, and we'll address them as soon as humanly possible. Thanks again!

    posted by : Ada on 7/15/2008 at 6:53 PM Flag For Abuse

  16. All this article does is mocks how self centered this generation is as parents.

    It's all about getting what we want, when we want it. Poor babies.

    posted by : Mom2Three on 7/16/2008 at 11:49 AM Flag For Abuse

  17. $1000 for a stroller? and most likely put on 18% credit card? Yeah, that's a brilliant strategy for helping out your kid.

    As far as failing or succeeding schools, that's a completely localized phenomenon. Some areas have outstanding traditional public schools in addition to charter and magnet schools that compete with many private schools. Most schools do not classify as something out of Stand By Me, but instead subscribe to a philosophy of mediocrity acceptance.

    posted by : jps130 on 8/9/2008 at 10:05 AM Flag For Abuse

  18. hey i have a stokke and it's totally awesome to be so close to your baby (talk about AP)! my son is proudly facing the world on the height level of a 6-year old, while other babies literally bite the dust!

    posted by : DaintySplendor on 9/17/2008 at 10:48 AM Flag For Abuse

  19. Ok, cute article, but since when is breastfeeding past 6 months extended?  I've never seen anything refer to six months as the "recommended" timeframe.  In fact, I think the current recommendation is officially 2 years.  That said, I think 1 year is what I usually see as the norm, and I can definitely understand some people see past that as extended, but 6 months?

    posted by : NewMomR on 5/12/2009 at 2:18 PM Flag For Abuse


   
  
 
 
   


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