feedback for "Dispatch: The Good Divorce"

  1. Thanks for this valuable article and emphasizing the importance of mediation is creating a better outcome.

    My own experience more than a decade ago led to my writing a guidebook for parents on how to create a storybook with family photos and history as a successful way to have the tough break-the-news conversation. I’m recognized as The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce and my new book is How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook™ Guide to Preparing Your Children -- With Love! What makes the book unique is that I don’t just tell parents what to say. I provide customizable templates to say it for them!

    Therapists, attorneys, mediators, educators and other professionals from around the U.S. and beyond have endorsed the book, attesting to the value of my fill-in-the-blanks, age-appropriate templates. Six therapists contribute their expertise to the book, as well.

    My goal is for divorcing couples to stop, talk and create a plan before having that crucial "divorce" talk with their children. I hope, for the sake of their kids, they will decide to move ahead in creating a child-centered divorce.

    For free articles, ezine and other valuable resources on this topic, visit www.childcentereddivorce.com.

    Best wishes,
    Rosalind Sedacca, CCT

    posted by : RosalindSedacca on 9/29/2008 at 11:22 AM Flag For Abuse

  2. Mediation is a good thing and can be great...for most couples. But it is absolutely NOT appropriate for a lot of couples, which is why mandating for everyone is wrong.

    Mediation assumes some level of reasonableness on the part of both parties - a willingness to compromise and meet in the middle for the good of the children. But the simple fact is that there are some extremely UNreasonable people in the world. And if you happen to be going through a divorce with one of them, you don't need a mediator, but an advocate working for your interests as a parent and as a property stakeholder.

    Articles like the one this obviously very nice guy has written make it sound like anyone who can't make mediation work as the tool for dissolving a marriage with children just didn't try hard enough. But that's like saying that people who get divorced just didn't try hard enough at their marriages.

    There are many, many divorces where one person is behaving so badly that a mediation simply becomes another tool to abuse and debase that person's partner. In applauding the value of mediation, we should also recognize that it isn't right for everyone, and no woman should feel shamed if she needs legal representation that is more adversarial in approach in order to protect her from personal and economic harm.

    posted by : a divorced parent on 9/29/2008 at 2:02 PM Flag For Abuse

  3. I just recently went through a divorce--and we did the whole mediation thing. Each of also have our own attorneys who we just kind of checked in with on certain issues.

    One really great thing about the mediation process was that all three of the attorneys involved repeatedly praised my husband and me for how well we were doing, how mature we were being and how much better this process would be for our child.

    And I have to agree--we made it out of our marriage with few battle scars and could even kind of smile at one another when we were signing the final paperwork. Our divorce was definitely easier than our marriage, and it helped me at least to have someone more like a cheerleader than an attack dog involved. Just my two cents...

    posted by : mediated in new mexico on 9/29/2008 at 11:44 PM Flag For Abuse

  4. I sure wish my parents had used a mediator. Twenty years later they still can't be in the same room together without a lot of discomfort.

    posted by : chattydaddy on 10/1/2008 at 5:34 PM Flag For Abuse

  5. Don't hire the best divorce lawyers - go for online divorce! Yes, as we live in the 21st century, this is already possible. Just fill in the forms online, and you've got yourself quick, and, more important, low cost divorce.
    What do you think about this topic? Is online divorce a normal, modern, quick and cheap way to end your marriage? Or this process shouldn't be moved to virtual space? http://www.votetheday.com/society-18/is-quick-and-cheap-divorce-possible-321/

    posted by : votetheday on 10/17/2008 at 12:19 PM Flag For Abuse


   
 
 
 
 
   


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