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Our daughter went through a similar phase around 10 months - and although my husband, who also shares parenting duties equally with me, gladly relinquished the middle of the night visits for a while, we just carried on as normal at other times. She screamed and cried - and he smiled and gave her a kiss in the morning anyway, made her breakfast, etc. She got over it pretty quickly. Last week, it was my turn (she's 20 months now) - she saw me coming at her and literally ran to my husband screaming and buried her face in his shoulder. Ah, well.
Just keep on keeping on - which I think is very important. She's learning how to get what she wants right now, so don't help her learn that screaming and crying for no good reason is going to help her get her way!
posted by : a mama on 11/26/2008 at 2:50 PM Flag For Abuse
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Aiyah - it goes back and forth. I used to be able to use the boobs to get my son's full attention, and he only wanted mama when he was tired or upset. Now it is totally the opposite, and he's daddy's boy all the time...
posted by : Giant Panda on 11/27/2008 at 9:03 PM Flag For Abuse
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All of my kids are closer to me than my husband....although I'm the bad cop parent.
my 2 year old, Slater, didn't like her father for while. a lot of that I thought was due to the fact that I was VERY angry at him during my pregnancy with her. (we got divorced. now remarried). So i use to feel bad when she didn't want him to hold her or anything.
Time went by, and she warmed up to him.
Come to find out, she's just a mean baby. She's very particular about anyone, really. Sometimes she likes his mom, sometimes she hates her. same with my mother, or friends, or even the older kids (i have 6 all together).
If she isn't feeling well, she won't go to my husband AT ALL.
The other night she had a tummy ache (I TOLD them not to eat all of those holiday mints in the foyer), and to my husband's surprise, she went to him and he held her.
So, i think you just have to keep in mind that as they get older, they can differentiate. Maybe you hug too hard, and daddy doesn't. Or maybe you're more lovey-dovey and daddy is straight forward but caring.
They can see that, and they choose what kind of loving they want dependent on their mood.
and kids are moody.
posted by : ZBecks on 12/3/2008 at 5:39 PM Flag For Abuse
