As we prepare to celebrate the arrival of 2013 let’s not forget about the lessons that we’ve learned during 2012. It would be so easy to push the good times and especially the bad times of the past year aside in favor of champagne flutes and new year kisses. One of Ronnie’s favorite quotes is, “When you know better, you do better,” so we want to make sure you remember what you learned. Below are 10 questions that you need to ask yourself about the past year. The answers may not come easy, and when they do may be even harder to read back. But this exercise will definitely aid you in living your best life in 2013.
1) What was your biggest mistake of 2012?
Writing this one down will help you to make sure you don’t repeat it again in 2013.
2) What did you dislike about your parenting style?
No one, and I mean no one is a perfect parent. What is important is that we always strive to be better, and examining the areas of parenting that you didn’t do well in are a great first step.
3) Singles: Would you have wanted to date the 2012 you?
Often times, we desire to be with someone who has it all together. The question is, when that person comes into our life will we have it together as well? If you weren’t a person that you would have wanted to date, 2013 is a great time to begin the transformation into that person.
4) Couples: Did you date in 2012?
I mean, did you really date? Did you date like you were single, even though you were married? I know the kids, job, and mortgage get in the way but don’t forget to carve out time for special moments.
5) Are you living your best life?
Are you content with where you are during this season of your life? If not what would make it better?
6) Do you enjoy your job?
If you don’t enjoy your job, are you doing something to change that? A paycheck can lull you into a comfort zone that you’ll one day regret. If you hate your 9-5 then determine what it is you would really love to do, and take the steps to make it happen.
7) Did you invest in yourself?
Did you take any personal development courses over 2012? Did you read any self-help books? What did you do over the past year that made you a better person? What can you do in the upcoming year to improve upon this?
8) Have you let it go?
Sometimes we can’t move on from the past because we harbor the hurt and pain so tight that’s is suffocating. When you refuse to let go of that hurt, it usually affects you more than the person that you’re mad at.
9) Who are your real friends?
I mean who are your really, real friends? Who are the people that you know are in your corner? These are the people you don’t have to wonder about and it won’t take long to list them. Friendship shouldn’t hurt. Friends aren’t afraid to tell you the truth, even if you don’t want to hear it. Friends will always be there.
10) What was your biggest achievement?
What was your biggest achievement during 2012 and how can you duplicate that process in 2013?
Write your answers to these questions down on a separate page and really consider where you’ve been so you can figure out where you’re going in the new year.
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