When both of my kids were born with Down syndrome, nobody around told me the really important things I needed to know about receiving a child with this condition. I heard everything from condolences to unexpected and cruel comments from people who were supposed to support me instead of judge my circumstances. But what I never heard was the sincere voice of a loving parent who had already crossed the line of prejudice and ignorance—from the side that most of us live on before having a child with special needs.
These are the 10 things nobody tells you when your child is born with Down syndrome, and 10 things everyone should know in order to receive that new life with love and hope.
MORE ALIKE THAN DIFFERENT 1 of 10
That the genetic disorder doesn't affect the genetic component that will make you recognize yourself in your child, and make him part of a family.
THE HARDER THE CHALLENGE, THE MORE GLORIOUS THE TRIUMPH 2 of 10
That no matter where he goest to school, wheter a special education classroom, or a mainstream school or disability program, you'll celebrate his triumphs with the same passion and excitement as any proud parent.
LOVE IS PERFECT 3 of 10
That no matter how long he may take to say his first words and phrases, it will be worth it every time you hear him say a new word. Wait for the day he learns to say "I love you". You'll never be the same after then.
HE IS THE PERFECT CHILD FOR YOU 4 of 10
That no matter how he looks, his weight, his height or his features, he will be always the most perfect and beautiful child to you.
HE’LL TAKE YOU FURTHER THAN YOU EVER IMAGINED 5 of 10
That while his arrival in your life may slow down your steps, he'll eventually take you further than you ever imagined.
YOU WILL BE SUPRISED BY HIS CLEVERNESS 6 of 10
That even though you never expected to be suprised by his cleverness, one day you'll find yourself negotiating with him for simple stuff like brushing his teeth. Thaty you have these typical experiences of parenthood will suprise and delight you.
YOU WILL HAVE A PRINCESS OR A SUPER HERO 7 of 10
That like any other child, he will dream of race cars and super heroes, and she will want to be a princess. She will wear her crown daily, while he tries to walk on the walls, just like Spiderman.
ONE DAY YOU WILL ASK HIM TO BE QUIET 8 of 10
That after having waited for so long for him to start talking, one day you'll ask him to be quiet.
YOU’LL BE SURPRISED AT HIS ABILITY TO MANIPULATE 9 of 10
That you'll be surprised at his ability to manipulate and get what he wants from you. That day, you'll realize you child is smarter than anyone would ever believe.
YOU WILL LAUGH, AND FEEL BLESSED 10 of 10
That there will be times when you can't help but laugh when you should be mad, like when he blames the dog for his naughty acts.
But the most important thing that you need to know is that your child is going to have his own dreams, his own goals and his own achievements. Every day you will learn new things with him and from him; and in a couple of years you will be able to look back and smile, and feel blessed and happy at having the child you never expected, but who became the most wonderful child you could never have imagined.
Yes, that child is special, because he is your child!