How do couples that have been together for years drift apart? How do couples that were so loving at one point, begin to hate each other? These are questions that we’ve all asked ourselves after seeing a split that we never imagined would happen. The best way that you can prevent these questions popping up in regards to your own relationship is by examining what you’re doing right now.
In a long term relationship it’s easy to slightly loose focus, only to find out years later that you’re completely off track. How did it happen, and how did you get there? It probably wouldn’t be a simple answer of one thing that went wrong, but instead a series of small steps that led to a path you wouldn’t have chosen for yourself. That happens often in relationships, and can ultimately lead to divorce.
To make sure that you keep the focus on your relationship, and finish like you started (or hopefully even better), we’ve compiled a quick list of 10 ways that you are setting your marriage up for failure. If some of the actions on our list seem too familiar, you may want to make an adjustment before it’s too late. After you view the list let me know if I missed anything in the comment section below.
COMPARING YOUR LIFE TO FACEBOOK 1 of 10This will lead to disappointment every time. Not to mention half of the people on Facebook are lying about their lives anyway.
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TALKING TOO MUCH 2 of 10At some point you'll learn that you can't share everything that happens in your relationship with everyone. This will be evident after you move past frustration with your spouse, but your friends and family don't.
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REFUSING TO GET HELP 3 of 10There are more resources to aid your marriage than ever before. Books, movies, counseling, coaching, virtual sessions, and countless others. Your marriage can work if you get help before it's too late.
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THINKING NEGATIVE THOUGHTS 4 of 10Approaching your relationship with a glass half-empty approach will most likely lead to that being the case.
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FOCUSING ON YOUR PARTNERS FAULTS INTEAD OF YOUR OWN 5 of 10The only person that you can change is yourself. Often when we do change ourselves the people around us tend to change as well.
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PUTTING YOURSELF FIRST 6 of 10A marriage that will never fail, is one where each partner puts their own desires last. In today's "I'ma Do Me" culture this may be tougher than expected.
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TRYING TO BE RIGHT EVERY TIME 7 of 10There's a great saying that goes, you can either be right, or be happy. That sums it up.
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KEEPING SCORE 8 of 10You cannot keep tabs on every mistake or mishap that your spouse makes if you expect to be happy.
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NOT WALKING THE WALK 9 of 10Saying that you're going to change is useless if your actions don't match your words.
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LOSING YOUR PHYSICAL CONNECTION 10 of 10Keep touching, holding hands, kissing and everything else that you did while you were dating. Losing that connection can lead to you losing your marriage.
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