Being positive is not an easy goal to achieve, but sometimes it’s our best or only chance to survive tough times. I have learned through the years that to maintain my ability to stay positive, I have to be selfish and protect my environment from bad energies. That’s my way to stay relaxed and focused on the things that are really important to me: the people who I love the most, my kids, family and real friends.
Here are my four ways to protect my sanity by being selfish:
PROTECT YOUR ENVIRONMENT 1 of 4
The new era is all about sharing, networking and inviting others to get closer to you through Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. As bloggers, writers or media professionals, many of us have adopted the "celebrity style" in a lower scale, but the truth is that all that exposure drains you and keeps you too connected to other's people reactions. Directly or indirectly, it makes you dependent of others' opinions of you. So be selfish with your special times; put down the phone or the camera and enjoy those moments without giving anyone the chance of judging you and your loved ones. Protect your environment and save the good stuff for those who are worthy enough to have it.
BE SELFISH WITH YOUR EMOTIONS. 2 of 4
When a friend gets mad at you for no reason, or reacts in a way you never expected, just let it be. Be selfish and think of yourself first. Don't waste your time and energy on trying to explain to her something she may not be able to understand at this time. Give her time, and feel free to keep going if she never comes back.
LEARN TO SAY NO, AND THEN DO IT AGAIN. 3 of 4
We get overwhelmed and pressured because we want to make others happy without thinking of ourselves first. Learning to say "no" to someone you love or respect is one of the hardest things to do, but you need to do it. Being selfish with your time is important for finding the time we need to relax and do one of the most important things of life: nothing. We all need that time to recharge our batteries and feel ready to keep going.
GIVE YOURSELF A SPECIAL TIME 4 of 4
Especially when we become parents, it is really hard to find time for ourselves and even harder to create special time to nurture ourselves. Do it once a month (at least): relax and spend time doing the things you love the most without interruption. Spend some money on a spa visit or to eat something decadent in the peace and tranquility of a fancy place where someone else will serve you and make you feel special. Our culture has taught us to put ourselves in second place all the time in order to be good parents. But good parents need to be happy in order to share happiness with their kids.
There is nothing bad about putting yourself first. Love is not a sacrifice but a celebration, joy and a full experience of growth. When we find ways to feel complete, we can better share that satisfaction with others.