I made up the printable below recently to remind myself and my husband what we have been doing right over the last 12 years of marriage. We are both pretty laid back but I think the most important thing I’ve learned about marriage is to learn to put myself in his shoes once in a while. He tries to do the same.
A few items in our guide:
Always be kind. Rumi once said to raise your words, not your voice. I think quiet digs can be just as painful. I always make sure he leaves for the day with a nice encouraging word.
Always be your spouse’s champion. This doesn’t mean I’m always on his side, but it does mean that I always want the best for him.
Be quick to forgive. Anytime I’ve stayed mad for longer than a day it hurts both of us, and anyone around us.
Choose joy. Life is too short to choose anything else.
You can download the printable at the link below (or click here for the direct link).
We’ve been together since 1997. We were just immature kids then. We’ve been through sickness and health too. Neither of us is the same person we were when we met but we’ve grown together and both agree that we have a better marriage now than when we first started out:
What’s your secret? Spill the beans. I’d love to know what you and your partner or spouse make an effort to do to keep your relationship happy and healthy.