Many people find it hard to believe that I’m actually 41 years old. I think it’s not only because I inherited my mom’s youthful genes (lucky me!), but also because my attitude is more on the childish, life-is-a-box-of-chocolates end. At the same time, I feel so old because of all the wisdom I’ve acquired that really only comes with age and filling your life with both the so-called (because you must always account for perspective) positive and negative experiences that make it richer.
Of course, all of this “wisdom” I’ve gained, and continue to do so every single day, I want to project to my 5-year-old daughter. But the more I do, the more I realize that she’s my teacher as much as I am hers. I’ve come to understand that the mother-child relationship is the biggest “I am you, you are me,” mirror there could be, and by truly comprehending that I can continue to evolve at the same time I’m giving her the love, support and guidance to find her own way through the rollercoaster of emotions that childhood brings.
There’s something beautiful about the huge spectrum of raw emotions my girl goes through every day. At this age, her feelings are not yet completely filtered through judgments or too much peer pressure. She’s barely starting to discover the labels society tries to slap onto us, and finding out the differences that eventually separate us from others. The more I watch her and listen to her verbalize how she digests the happenings in her world, the more I find ways I wish I was more like her at my age, and these are also the traits in her I want to nourish the most.
Do you look at your children as your guides? In which ways do you wish you were more like them?
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