According to a new study released by the Pew Research Center today, breadwinning moms are on the rise as 40% of American mothers are the breadwinners in their household. I was interviewed by ABC News because I’m one of the 40%. What really surprised me about the study, however, is the fact that 51% of those surveyed think that children would be better off with mom at home, 74% said a woman working outside the home makes it harder to raise children and 50% say it makes it harder for marriages to be successful.
Say what? Speaking for myself, I could say that I am a working mom because my family just didn’t have the luxury of one income because that is very much true. But, even if I could stay home, I wouldn’t (no offense to my stay at home moms, I truly believe y’all are superwomen, but it’s just not me).
My mother was a hard working, single mom of three. She made sure that the three of us always had our needs met and that we knew the value of hard work. I myself have held a job since I was 16 years old and have a very strong work ethic that I apply not only to my work, but to my parenting. Thanks to my mom, being ambitious is as much a part of me as being a mother is. If I gave that part of me up, I truly believe it would take away from who I am as a person and as a mom. I want my daughter to also set her goals high, to see that she can do anything she sets her mind to. By living in a household where mom is the breadwinner, she’ll grow up seeing seeing a mom who works and nurtures as well as seeing a dad that not only loves being a hands on parent, but supports and roots for mom to succeed.
I’m actually inclined to believe that in homes where mom is the breadwinner, their marriages are just as strong as any other. It takes a strong woman to be a career driven mother and an equally strong man to be there cheering her on every step of the way. Marriage is a partnership and each couple must decide what works best for them. Whether it’s mom or dad being the breadwinner, in the end the only thing that matters is if your family’s needs are being met …what society thinks is just irrelevant.
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