Did you do anything stupid over the holidays? I did, and I bet my bottom dollar you did, too.
Now that we’ve moved into 2014, it’s time to ‘fess up to our 2013 holidays horrors. Yup, you know what I’m talking about. That thing you did you don’t want to share.
No, not to me, but to yourself.
Here’s the thing:
Most of us spend all year in some way prepping for the holidays. Not in terms of buying Santa table runners and stuffing the fridge with carrots for the reindeer, but in terms of mentally thinking about and preparing for that end of year time when the holidays will be ‘nigh and we’ll be surrounded by loved ones, vacation time, and enough food to feed a small army.
And what happens when December rolls around? Good things. We spend time with family and friends, we relax when we can find a spare moment, we eat Christmas cookies to our hearts’ content. Yay. Yay, yay, and yay.
But then there are the other things that happen. When you yell at your kid because his shoes aren’t tied and his tie isn’t straight, and Christmas Eve service started TEN MINUTES AGO AND WE AREN’T EVEN IN THE CAR. When you tell your mother-in-law you don’t think her fruitcake is the best thing West of the Mississippi and watch her face fall. When you make a snide remark about your husband’s inability to get the Christmas tree from standing perfectly straight one more year in a row, and he stares at the floor dejectedly.
These are the things we want to erase from the holiday season. The things we’d like to take a big swipe off the whiteboard of life.
But, how can I say this delicately?
Instead, the only thing we can do is ‘fess up to our holiday misdeeds, and try to commit ourselves to making next year better. But ‘fessing up is not always easy, even when it’s just a Moleskine notebook you’ll be writing the dirty details into, and not a real live human who will have to hear your transgressions. But if you want to be better with each and every day — and with each and every holiday season — it’s your only bet.
Join me, in committing to admitting to what we didn’t do perfectly this holiday season, forgiving ourselves for it, and promising to try a wee bit harder next year.