Look, we all know resolutions are bulls**t, right? So why do so many of us persist in making them?
2013 marked some big changes for me. As my daughter has grown up I’m feeling more like myself and I’ve embraced the things I love once again, particularly hiking. It’s been wonderful, frankly, and this year is one of the first years in a long time that I’m not happy to see end.
But as I look at 2014 approaching, it’s hard to not think about what I want to change in the coming year. We’re programmed, I think, to focus on new years as a time of change.
So I’ve found myself considering resolutions once again. However, after careful consideration, I am not going to make any instead I’m setting myself some goals.
I’ve been working on getting back into shape and eating in a way that allows me to lose weight for a year. There’s no doubt that the holidays got me a bit off track and I am now focusing on eating my “normal” range of calories once again and have plans to get back to walking in the woods and hitting the gym. However, I haven’t set a specific weight loss goal for 2014, and I won’t. I just want to keep moving forward on that path.
I also have some pretty solid business goals for 2014. I have some detail oriented goals that I can control (such as changing my blog and more), but much of what I hope to achieve isn’t actually up to me. So my goal is just to do the footwork that is my part and work hard to get results. 2013 was a blessed year for me work wise (after a very rocky start), and I’m really excited about what happens next.
I also have relationship goals. It’s awfully easy, after 21 years of being together, for my husband and I to take each other for granted. So about a month ago I made a commitment to do at least one nice thing for Charlie without being asked a day. The results have been startling and I am thinking about how to expand that goal into further improvement of our relationship. We are great together and I never want to forget that.
Lastly, I have parenting goals. I want to work more with my daughter on her manners and her behavior, and I also want to help her learn and grow more. Her school allows her to direct her own learning, which I fully support, but that doesn’t mean we aren’t going to back up what she learns there with the basics here at home. It’s my goal this year to get her to read every day for at least an hour, and to help her math skills grow.
So there you have it. Well, almost: I do have one other dream for 2014, but I’m keeping that one to myself. So how about you? Do you have goals for 2014?