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Rene Syler is a former news anchor for The Early Show on CBS, where she interviewed celebrities and politicians. She published Good Enough Mother: The Perfectly Imperfect Book of Parenting in March 2007 and continues with her television work. She is also the daughter of two breast cancer survivors and is now the ambassador for Susan G. Komen for the Cure. She lives in Westchester, New York with her husband, Buff Parham, children Casey and Cole and their yellow Lab Olivia.

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Let Your Kid Fail! And Other Ways To Keep From Raising A Spoiled Brat….

By Rene Syler |

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Okay, I’m  sure there are some who have already pronounced me an unfit mother, based on the title alone, but hear me out.

The other day I was having a discussion with a friend whose kid could not find a job. You know how she knew? Because she was the one doing the looking! Yes, I know how that sounds. She was the one scouring the ads, she was the one waking up her college graduate child, she was the one filling his new car (that he got for a graduation present) with gas and she was the one telling him which jobs he should apply for. What did she get in return? What was her son’s contribution? He got engaged long enough to tell her which were his “dream jobs” and which he couldn’t be bothered with.

He was frustrated and so was his mother, who was openly lamenting the “success” many people around him had been having (she actually mentioned a few reality stars by name). Oh boy, where do I start?

This really isn’t rocket science but it does require parents do some things many seem loathe to do these days; some things that didn’t seem that difficult for past generations but for some reason, many parents nowadays just don’t have the stomach for. Let your kid fail. Actually that’s just one of the things we should do if we don’t want to end up with a spoiled, entitled brat on our hands. Here are the rest.

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Let Your Kid Fail! And More Ways To Keep From Raising A Brat

Stop Hovering!

Good God, let ‘em breathe! Of course I’m speaking figuratively – and by breathe I mean let them out of your sight every now and again. Let them make a few decisions on their own; how will they handle the big ones if they can't practice on the little ones? photo credit: rafasgj

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Rene Syler is a former news anchor for The Early Show on CBS, where she interviewed celebrities and politicians. She published Good Enough Mother: The Perfectly Imperfect Book of Parenting in March 2007 and continues with her television work. She lives in Westchester, New York with her husband and two children. Read bio and latest posts → Read Rene's latest posts →

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3 thoughts on “Let Your Kid Fail! And Other Ways To Keep From Raising A Spoiled Brat….

  1. Christine Moehring says:

    I taught 7th & 8th grades for 17 years. So many examples of great, hard-working kids, and so many examples of poor parenting, as well. The parents who wanted the teacher to change their kid’s grade in American history–teacher said, “What the heck, let’s change all the grades and make them all As in all subjects. I can do that.” Parents saw the folly of this, finally; grades stood as given. In order to raise an unspoiled kid, you have to love them as they are, flaws and all.

  2. Wanda says:

    I so appreciate this article. I have been a helicopter mom. I have since parked my helicopter. I allow my children to navigate their own way. It is hard watching whalen I know they’re making mistakes, but I think they learn more from making mistakes.
    We give kids a false sense of entitlement and foster a superior complex when we constantly do things for them and tell them they’re special. No one thinks they’re special but us-their parents. Lol

  3. Kara Lin says:

    Nice article. I agree.
    These days grown adults (kids) have an odd sense of “entitlement”.
    The type that are grown but don’t work and expect their parents to support
    them financially and emotionally. Usually uneducated and lazy.
    Sometimes they marry and expect their parents or step`parents to support them.
    I actually know of some that even though the daughter is married….
    her husband doesn’t work and when he does, its not enough to support
    his family. Then to add insult to injury they decide to have a child , when
    they can’t and/or refuse to support themselves. The attitude is I am “a full time mom” so i don’t work. Worse part the parents “enable: these behaviors without
    the understanding that they are doing they lazy grown , “entitled” people NO favors by encouraging this. You have to have a license to fish, a license to hunt…but any idiot can have a kid~

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