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Monica Bielanko was born and raised on the wild frontier of late 1970's Utah. She is a recovering Mormon who once went to see an unknown band from Philly and married the guitar player a few weeks later. She's been married to her Babble Voices writing partner, Serge Bielanko, for the past nine years. Along the way they have practiced and perfected the dark arts of couch dining, clandestine boozing, bambino wrangling, wide-open domestic warfare, and modern love. Her personal blog, The Girl Who was in the top ten of last year's Top 50 list. In addition to Babble Voices, Monica is featured on Strollerderby and Pregnancy.

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Hello, I Love You, I’m Pooping! (10 Things I Never Thought I’d Let My Husband See)

By Monica Bielanko |

To pee or not to pee? THAT is the question...


I know the date of the first time I peed in front of my husband.

Oh sure, I’ve yelled at him to pull over during long trips and I’ve skedaddled to the back of the car to pee alongside the highway, but he couldn’t see me.

But the very first time I allowed him to view me availing myself of the porcelain facilities was March of 2006. A full year-and-a-half into our marriage. I know because I blogged about it:


Before I got married, I declared I absolutely WOULD NOT be one of those girls that performs all manner of bathroom ablutions in front of their betrothed. Peeing publicly was a right strictly reserved for my gaggle of girlfriends, particularly on those drunken nights out with the gal gang. And up until yesterday, I’d kept up my end of the pee pact. I’ve never seen The Surge pee. The same can’t be said for boyfriends of yesteryear, but I’d hoped to maintain some sort of mystique for my husband. He is forced to observe me in all manner of compromising positions anyway, must he bear unfortunate witness to peeing too?

I’m certainly not embarrassed to pee in front of him…he’s seen me expel all manner of vomit in the most atrocious way possible (filling the cupholders in my truck to the brim on the way home from the FOX Christmas Party 2004) Yes. I did. It’s just that…the pee pact was an unspoken one…a gallant affording of respect from one spouse to another.

And most certainly if anything MORE than pee needs to be eliminated, I’m all about running the water, coughing strategically to mask any unpleasant splashing that may echo from our very small, acoustic bathroom, reverberating horrifyingly throughout our size small apartment.

But now our silent pee agreement is broken and it was I that pissed it away. Much the same way I can’t reclaim my virginity, I can’t go back.

Eight years into our marriage I look back and laugh at silly old me bemoaning the broken pee pact. Anyone who has been married for more than a few years knows that any mystique marriage holds in the early years is out the window quicker than I bolt from the room should Serge unleash his inner gasses nowadays.

Speaking of inner gasses, that’s the first thing on my list of 10 things I never thought I’d let my husband see (or hear) me do.

What do you think? Are these things all just part of living and loving or are there some things each individual should just keep to themselves? What I really want to know is, if your husband witnesses you pooping, is there a slow but steady decline in attraction or does he not give a *ahem* sh!t?

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Monica Bielanko was raised on the wild frontier of late 1970's Utah. She is a recovering Mormon who married the guitar player of an unknown band. She's been married to her Babble Voices writing partner, Serge Bielanko, for the past nine years. Her personal blog, The Girl Who was in the top ten of last year's Top 50 list. Read bio and latest posts → Read Monica's latest posts →

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24 thoughts on “Hello, I Love You, I’m Pooping! (10 Things I Never Thought I’d Let My Husband See)

  1. Kate says:

    Wait, some women don’t have nipple hair? That’s as rare as a unicorn!

  2. Sarah says:

    I am guilty of all of the above…except ear cleaning. But I have cleaned my man’s ears before…I just havent needed help with mine yet.

  3. Robyn says:

    I pee in front of my bf – but have yet to poop or PURPOSELY fart. I do talk about poop a lot. And gross pregnancy/birth stuff. I have had him help my pluck my nasty thick chin whiskers. It is what it is… if it grosses him out (which I have yet to do) then too bad?

  4. madel says:

    Oh yeah! guilty! hahaha.. but not all of those.. never done. but most.. i think only one i haven’t done… and yes madam women does have nipple hair.. count me in… and yes i poop in front of my husband. Gross we poop together.. ew.. yes it’s true. it happens when both of us had this very terrible upset stomach, and in our old apartment we only have one toilet. and he cannot hold it any longer while i am still pooping.. gross.. very gross. but we did it.. hahahaha

  5. Belinda says:

    Nothing mentioned is really that gross… you live with someone all the time they are bound to see or hear this stuff! And we’ve had two kids via vaginal births so he’s seen it all really, including the (we never mention) poop while pushing out child. Also, I would have bad pains if I had to hold in a fart instead of just letting nature take its course ;-)

  6. Rosana says:

    Hahahaha, you all a cracking me up!!!!!!

  7. NoNipHair says:

    Sorry I do not have nip hair. A lot of these I have done though. lol

  8. nina says:

    Wooo! I’m uncomfortable thinking about a couple of those, but Hey! What ear cleaner did you use? I have no problem letting the “innernets” know I have ear wax or something clogging the works! Over-sharing extravaganza, begin!

  9. Mary Rouse says:

    When my husband and I were dating, we were in a motel room and quite tipsy. During a romp, while he was thrusting, about 3 to 4 loud, nonsmelly (thank God) farts eased right out. For awhile after that, I was still quite shy to let loose like he did. I use to hold it in and try to go to the bathroom or just walk away to another room. He knew I was very shy.
    One time while still dating, he busted in the bathroom and asked me why I keep closing the door. My stomach tightened up that I could not even continue to go. He told me that if I didn’t go, he was going to keep coming in the bathroom until I do. Now, there have been times that I have had to go while he was in the bathroom and we had to take turns.
    I pop his pimples but use to struggle with letting him see me pop mine, or even see me with one at that.
    I have to say that I experimented with many of the things up here by my husband letting me know that I was safe with him. ( Minus the ear cleaning; other than q-tips) I can proudly declare that I can now use public bathrooms because of my husband.

  10. Jennifer Sorbara says:

    I have two children and my ex watched them both, I have IBS and let me tell you you know a man loves you when he hds your hand through an attack, I am the worst and I mean worst sick person in the world (I immediately return to 2 years old and cry for my mommy), I also have panic attacks wich require someone to hold me while I punch them repedidly because I am not coherent enough to understand what I am doing. He put up with all of this and more, I say people that love you don’t mind going through life with you good bad an ugly that’s what they sign off on.

  11. Jennifer Sorbara says:

    Ps no nipple or facial hair :)

  12. A friend says:

    Wait. Is the errr menstrual one about THAT cab occasion? Forgive me for asking. Long time reader. Oh sheez. Sorry. Read it then, and thought fuck yeh, go you! Now, looking back I can see why you changed your mind!

  13. Patty Gatter says:

    Well, I don’t know about everyone else, but for some reason if I am in the bathroom everyone needs me urgently, even the dog. If I lock the door then everyone stands at the door banging so I don’t even bother to lock the door anymore. I do however make everyone leave when it is that time of the month. TMI?
    Patty Gatter, Owner

  14. No way sister says:

    OK, I have to say I have never done these things in front of my husband & I never will (God willing). Nor have I seen him do any of them. We’ve been married for 5 years, it’s not happening. That’s what bathroom doors with locks are for. There is absolutely no reason for us to do these things in front of each other, it’s gross. Keep a little mystery ladies!

  15. Lex says:

    I don’t have nipple (or facial) hair, I’ve never pooped in front of my husband (Hell, I wouldn’t be ABLE to poop in front of him! Just knowing people are in the house while I’m pooping makes it difficult enough – I have to sacrifice a chicken, do a Gregorian chant and get high just so I can relax enough to defecate, but I digress…) so I def could not do that in front of my hubs. He has helped me clean my ears out, but that’s not that gross, is it? I love getting blackheads out of his ears and off his back, but then, I love him and he’s sexy! I wouldn’t do it for the gross dude in my high school who had a crush on me (or anyone else ;)

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  17. acai says:

    Things I NEVER thought I’d do in front of my husband

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  24. Mary says:

    Having sex would be one of them for me…

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