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Serge Bielanko spent nearly 15 years living in a van and cheap motel rooms as a guitarist/songwriter in a rock-n-roll band called Marah, before turning to marriage, parenthood, and writing. For the past several years, he has written about the humorous side of being a dad and a husband on his personal blog, Thunder Pie. In addition to writing daily for Babble Dad and Babble Voices (He Said/She Said), his writing has appeared in places like Esquire magazine and The Huffington Post. Nowadays, this 41-year-old dude spends way too much time working on his first book in his garage in central Pennsylvania, where he chases trout, drinks beer, and lives with his wife, the writer, Monica Bielanko, and their two kids, Violet and Henry.

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What Is Love? 20 Thoughts from a Totally Unqualified Expert

By Serge Bielanko |

It’s tough to imagine a world without love.

What would be the point, really?

At a fairly young age, we tend to discover the fact that our souls more or less run on pure unfiltered love, so once heartbreak hits us, if we want to keep on chugging along,… well, we have to find a way to see through our own tears and breathe through our own gurgling snot and get back out there in the world somehow.

Pretty early on, we figure out that the only way to deal with losing love is to close your eyes and love some more.

It’s tricky at times, that’s for sure— some people would even say that it can turn your hair grey after a while, and I’m in no place to argue with that fact (or so says my bathroom mirror). Yet, as a species, as a dominant life force capable of so much utter destruction and chaos and sadness here on Earth, we humans sure do one thing right. We keep on loving, and we keep on looking for love and serving it up to the people in our lives.

So, I thought it might be a cool idea to take a look at trying to categorically do what really cannot be categorically done.

I thought it might be interesting and somewhat inspiring (as well as a bit laughable and radically humbling) to try my hand at tackling the age old question: what is love? There is no right or wrong answer, of course;  love is way too fickle and much too clever for any of that stuff. And besides…what the hell do any of us really know about it anyway?

<i>What Is Love?</i> 20 Thoughts from a Totally Unqualified Expert


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Serge Bielanko writes about fatherhood for Babble Dad and about marriage stuff for Babble Voices at He Said/She Said. His writing has appeared in Esquire and The Huffington Post, as well as on his personal blog, Thunder Pie. He lives with his wife and two kids in central Pennsylvania. Read bio and latest posts → Read Serge's latest posts →

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