Marriage is kind of a pickle, huh?
I mean, maybe not for everyone, but for a lot of people like me the union of “holy matrimony” can sometimes seem like an obstacle course set up all over the floor of my feeble mind.
Just when you get things going pretty good, just when you’re recovering from the latest challenge to be a decent partner-in-crime and in life, along comes another bunch of floating logs coated in bacon grease that you have to skip and slip across to meet your better half on the other side.
But, I think that maybe that’s what makes marriage something worth fighting for, right?
Nothing empowering or rewarding comes easy in this life now does it? There is no easy way to the big summits we try to climb in our time here on Earth and marriage is certainly one of the highest peaks we ever glance up at and say,” I’ll have some of that.” For a guy like me, it takes a lot of work to move from being an independently minded bachelor to someone whose very existence is suddenly stapled a trillion times to another person’s heart/soul/smile/dreams/ambitions/finances/and toothbrush holder.
Over the course of the last 8 years, I have been both a witness and a player in the game of marriage and I have come to spend a lot of time contemplating what it means to be ‘happily married’. I’m no expert, mind you, in fact, I’m far from it. But, like anyone else who believes two is better than one, and who believes that their own marriage is a puzzling shape-shifter worth working on day in and day, out I truly enjoy crawling up into my own head to spend time pondering what it is exactly that brings couples together.
And what it is that makes them last.
There are no easy answers, of course. Truth is, there are far more questions than easy solutions. But that’s what makes it so wonderfully challenging at the hardest points. And so damn awesome when things are going good.
So, pull up a chair, crack a beverage or three and – by all means – chime in when you feel so inclined. We’re talking marriage here today, people, and your answers are at least as good as mine.
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