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Stop Victim Shaming

By Heather Spohr |

We’re all waking up this morning to the horrible news that a gunman opened fire in a Colorado movie theater, killing at least 12 and injuring dozens. Among the injured were a three-month-old baby and a six-year-old girl. I am sickened by the actions of the shooter, and also terribly disappointed by the judgement I’m seeing thrown toward the parents who brought their children to the midnight showing.

Like this one:

Or this one:

And this:

Or this one:

Except it DOES MATTER, because you are heaping your judgement onto parents on the worst day of their life.

And this:

Or this:

Look. By putting this out into the world, you are basically implying that it’s the fault of the parents that their children were injured. The parents of the three-month-old were probably so happy to be out of the house. The parents of the six-year-old were probably doing something special for their child, who didn’t have school today because it’s the summer. I’m sure ALL the parents were prepared for the only realistic consequence of taking a kid to a midnight movie: next-day crankiness. No one thinks, “I shouldn’t take my kid to this movie because they might get shot.”

I’m going to say this as “loudly” as I possibly can: Stop shaming the victims. You don’t think a child or baby should go to a midnight showing of a comic book movie? Don’t take your child to the midnight showing of a comic book movie. It’s that simple. But don’t you DARE heap your judgement onto these parents suffering the kind of horror and loss few people can comprehend.

This is a tragedy that could have happened ANYWHERE, while doing ostensibly good parenting things like attending church,  an assembly at school, or even a showing of Madagascar 3 at 2pm. Whether taking their children to a midnight showing of Batman was a good parenting decision or not, it has nothing to do with what happened, and to link the two is despicable and only serving to make the parents feel worse.

The families and parents will be reliving this day for the rest of their lives. Do what you can to make it better, not worse.


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70 thoughts on “Stop Victim Shaming

  1. Kristi says:

    Thank you! Agreed! Come on people. Let’s not lose sight of the actually tragedy here. People need to get off their high horse and have compassion for the victims. Totally ridiculous!

  2. Cori Kesler says:

    What better time to take an infant to the movies? They are up half the night anyway. Nobody gets much sleep, and the child is happy as long as it’s with mommy/daddy. It is something I would have done when my kids were babes… The blame lies with the murderer.

  3. Laura says:

    So so so well said! You are so right! I am going to give those questioning the little ones being at the movie the benefit of the doubt and assume they didn’t mean to shame the victims and that they are just trying to make themselves feel better/ less vulnerable (like, “Well I would never take my child to a midnight movie, so this kind of thing could never happen to me.”). But, intentional or not, you are right. They are making the worst day of these parents’ lives even more terrible (if that’s possible) and the judgement and questioning of other people’s parenting choices needs to stop. If this had never happened, no one would have thought twice about a baby in a theatre. Plus, like you said, unfortunately this tragedy could have happened anywhere- church, Disneyland, the park, anywhere. THEN would be asking ourselves why kids were there? Or would it be acceptable that they were there and then would we focus on the horror that these poor victims and their families are now facing?

    Btw, when Sex and the City came out in theatres, I had a 2 month old infant. I was sleep deprived and he was nursing around the clock. My friends asked me if I wanted to go see the film. It was late, but guess what? The kid was up late every night with me anyway! So I took him, and he nursed/slept through the whole movie. Was it baby appropriate material? Nope. And neither was the reality trash that I would have been watching with him at home had we chosen not to go. And luckily he was a baby and didn’t speak English yet. Was he out past his bedtime? Ha ha, like an infant has a bedtime! And even if he did and was out too late, that was my choice as his parent.

    The same is true of the parents that brought their infant, or 6 year old or 16 year old to that movie last night. That was their call, and none of us should say one thing about it. Never in a million years could any of them thought that what happened was even a remote possibility. I’m sure they would all give anything to go back in time and stay home. Let’s not add shame to their unfathomable grief. My prayers will be with anyone there last night, as well as their families.

    No one deserves to lose a child. No one.

  4. Christa says:

    Thank you. I’ve been saying this all day.

  5. DadCAMP says:

    If you take your kids to a midnight showing of a violent movie, you’re doing it wrong. Full stop.

    Regardless of a shooting, 3 month olds and 6 yr olds have no business in the theatre.

    Memo to parents: things change when you have kids. You don’t get to do everything you used to be before. And that includes going to midnight showings of Batman.

    1. @Dadcamp, Wow. You are totally missing the point.

  6. Karen says:

    at three months old, that infant would have no idea. That’s a duh. I wouldn’t even blink at that.

    At 6 y/o, how do we know that the parents REALLY wanted to see the movie and their sitter fell through? Maybe they were counting on the child to fall asleep. Maybe they brought headphones and music for the child so the child would drift off and they could enjoy their evening out.

    How dare we judge? Those parents and children need prayers and unity, not judgment and condemnation from people sitting at a computer screen who were no where near in those victim’s shoes.

  7. Jordy Blumberg says:

    Couldn’t have said it better Heather… as always. =)

  8. [...] have asked that we not blame the victims in a time like this. Fine, I appreciate that we don’t want to pile on the tragedy, but [...]

  9. Shelly says:

    Really, really well stated!

  10. Julie Marsh says:

    Thank you for saying this, and so well.

  11. steph says:

    My husband and i had this same discussion at lunch today. He felt that the children should not have been out that late, but i told him i would have no problem taking our 6 year old son to a midnight showing for a special treat. Who would have thought this would happen. Tradgedy can strike anywhere at anytime. Unfortunately this is the world we live in today. You cant stop living your life. My heart goes out to the.victims and their families.

  12. Linda B says:

    The internet is such a “freeing experience”. You can say what you want and think nothing of it. But everything you say out there may sometime come back to haunt you so PLEASE think before you hit publish. Put yourself in those parents shoes and wonder how you would feel if someone said that about you! To me, people want to say this could never happen to me and by judging the parents, it makes them feel less vulnerable! If it were only that simple!

  13. Heather Hendrick says:

    People are jerks. I loved Kristen’s response to your post. And seriously? Why is a three month old at a midnight movie premiere? Have these people ever had children? I can’t tell you how many late night movies we took newborns to so I could nurse my child and they would go to SLEEP while I actually got to watch a movie. God forbid. Hoping these parents can shake off the judgement and American can focus on the real tragedy here (and it has nothing to do with children in movie theaters.)

  14. Meghan says:

    As always, I’m totally in agreement with you.

    There are children and adults who have been killed and injured. THAT is what we should be talking about, not what happened or why. People are assholes and have to feel superior if they want to take to the air waves in the aftermath of a tragedy to express disapproval at parenting techniques instead of sympathy for what happened.

    THE END.

  15. anna see says:

    I agree! While I sheltered my kids from movies like this, I know that NO ONE deserved what happened. The consequence should have been a cranky kid the next day, or maybe a nightmare, not death. I noticed the same kind of judgment regarding the 12 year old boy who died in the sand tunnel this week. People were blaming his parents. Sure, I sheltered my kids from PG 13 movies, and I warned them about collapsing sand and snow tunnels, but I never warned them about flash flooding, and that is how I lost my son, in the blink of an eye. Life changes in a second. Bereaved parents and violence victims need compassion not judgment.

  16. Laura says:

    @dadcamp, even if you had a point about the kids not belonging there, today is not the day to write a blog post about it. Very, very cold and in poor taste and the very last thing that any of those parents need to see or hear.

    Also, if you don’t think kids should be at movies like that, you don’t have to ever take your kids to them. Pretty simple.

    If you really want to discuss parenting today, maybe you should explore the upbringing of the alleged shooter. He was the bad guy here, not the people who went to see a movie and had their lives forever altered. I think they’ve been through enough. And even if you think they made a bad call, keep it to yourself.

  17. lonek8 says:

    I will admit that I have tweeted a comment about the inappropriateness of taking a 6 yo to a midnight movie (don’t necessarily find it that inappropriate for a 3 month old since they have no idea what is going on and don’t really adhere to a normal sleep schedule at that point anyway), but i don’t really see all of these comments as victim shaming. Certainly anything that implies the parent’s got what they deserved is unacceptable. For myself, I was just surprised to hear that there are people out there who think a midnight movie (and a violent one no less) is appropriate viewing for a very young child. this kind of tragedy can absolutely happen anywhere and anytime – but the fact that it occurred doesn’t absolve those parent’s of making poor choices. I don’t consider it victim shaming to express disbelief that a child was injured in a situation they never should have been in in the first place. The fact that these parents made a bad decision and then their child was hurt simply magnifies the tragedy.

  18. Melissa says:

    @dadcamp – you seem to be a total douchnozzle. Who the hell are you to judge?

  19. Jen B. says:

    Well, now the dad just told the world he left his girlfriend and children inside the theater with a crazed gunman. I wouldn’t have broadcasted that if I were him. Sorry, but they didn’t need to be there and the dad is a class act (not!)

  20. Lynn says:

    I admit to often being judgmental when it comes to parenting choices. However, I can honestly say that upon hearing the news of the tragedy and that there were children involved, it NEVER crossed my mind to judge those poor parents who lost a child overnight. I am disgusted by the comments I’ve read in different places about how those kids shouldn’t have been there in the first place. I am by no means a superior parent. My husband and I both agreed that while maybe not that particular movie, we certainly wouldn’t be against taking one of our children (ages 7, 9, 13) to a midnight premier of a movie they were interested in and was appropriate for their viewing. We are both sickened that people are so hateful for all the wrongs reasons in this situation. I would bet that the parents are already asking themselves why they didn’t just stay home. They don’t need anyone else to do it for them.

  21. Katie says:

    When I saw the movie at midnight, even I thought the movie was way too loud at times. You could actually feel the theater shake from the sound. It was not just my particular theater as I have been to many action movies.

    I’m glad that the parents and their children are okay. I don’t think that anybody should harass them, or look down on them. Perhaps the baby had earplugs or some other device to protect them. However, I do think that parents need to be aware that infants have very sensitive ears. There can easily be noise induced hearing loss, especially for an infant. Think about when you or your children were young, and how easy it was for them to get an ear infection. I’m sure the ears are the last thing people are concerned about, but they really are important to take care of, especially at that young. Obviously, this is not a top priority issue compared to what has happened to those poor victims and their families. I just want any parent who reads this to be more informed because any mom, including the mom at the theater, is just concerned about their child’s safety. The more information we have to protect our children in the future, the better.

  22. Tracie says:

    I’m missing where people lay the blame on the parents for their children being injured or present. I just see people questioning why they were at the theatre in the first place, which is a very valid question.

  23. Beta Dad says:

    I would (silently) judge the hell out of parents for bringing little kids to a totally inappropriate movie at a totally inappropriate time. Under normal circumstances. But, yeah–not now.

  24. Alf Hucker says:

    “By putting this out into the world, you are basically implying that it’s the fault of the parents that their children were injured.” It is. The kid wouldn’t have been injured if their neglect hadn’t had them at the theatre. They are bad parents, not because their kid just got shot, but no kid under 13-14 belongs at a midnight showing. NONE. Secondly, it just shows how selfish/disrespectful they are as parents. Who wants to be sitting behind or in front of the a-hole parents who brought their whiny kid to a movie they shouldn’t be in? You made the choice to breed, and now you’re not happy when you can’t go watch a blockbuster on opening night? Too bad. Don’t breed then. It’s ridiculous you’re whining about the reaction.

    1. @Alf wow. I’m very comfortable “whining” about my wish that people would be more respectful with the words they’re putting into the world the day of a senseless tragedy. You are something else.

  25. Mom101 says:

    Thanks for saying this – glad I found it, Heather. I can see why a tragedy (shooting) can lead to other situational based questions (kids in movies) but I don’t see how they belong in the same conversation at the same time when there is no causality whatsoever. It’s amazing to me that the thing that’s shocking to those tweeters (most of whom seem fairly young) is “baby in movie theater” not PSYCHOPATH WITH GUN. Maybe it says something about how desensitized we are to actual violence, while we’re overly sensitized to the choices that other parents make for their kids.

  26. Adrienne says:

    @Alf how do you know the kids were “whiny”? Are you displacing your own childhood on to others? You have no clue as to the behavior of the children in that theater or the reasons behind their being there. If bringing a “child” (and your definition of a child being anyone under 13 is ridiculous) to a midnight movie is selfish and disrespectful, I am confused. How do you know it wasn’t the “child” who wanted to go? How do you know it wasn’t a reward for doing something spectacular the child did that week? How do you know it wasn’t the 6 year olds Make A Wish choice? You have no friggin’ clue! Stop passing judgement on others and look in the damn mirror.

  27. [...] Spohr started noticing this tendency on Twitter in the first hours after the shooting. On her blog, More Spohr, on Babble, she reposted many critical tweets and lashed out at those who wrote them: Look. By [...]

  28. [...] Spohr started noticing this tendency on Twitter in the first hours after the shooting. On her blog, More Spohr, on Babble, she reposted many critical tweets and lashed out at those who wrote them: Look. By [...]

  29. MomOfOne says:

    The topic needs to be addressed that young children belong no where near violent and dark movies. Parents are teaching their kids that violence is entertaining, and this horrifying event teaches us that it’s not. That isn’t victim shaming, it’s about protecting children and their sensitive, innocent minds.

  30. [...] Spohr started noticing this tendency on Twitter in the first hours after the shooting. On her blog, More Spohr, on Babble, she reposted many critical tweets and lashed out at those who wrote them: Look. By [...]

  31. Lorraine says:

    My heart goes out to those families who lost loved ones in this tragedy. What we need to understand is that violence breeds violence. If society does not look at what becomes acceptable and norm, then increased calamities may be what might wake them up. I do not watch, nor never have, violent movies, nor did I allow my children. What goes in must come out. If people see violence and killing, they won’t think a thing about being violent with their own spouses or children, as they will be numbed by the horror they are taking in.

    No thanks! I pray every day that the forces of evil will not have an inroad through creating such activities as “fun” in our lives.

  32. [...] Spohr started noticing this tendency on Twitter in the first hours after the shooting. On her blog, More Spohr, on Babble, she reposted many critical tweets and lashed out at those who wrote them: Look. By [...]

  33. [...] Spohr started noticing this tendency on Twitter in the first hours after the shooting. On her blog, More Spohr, on Babble, she reposted many critical tweets and lashed out at those who wrote them: Look. By [...]

  34. Ms. Moon says:

    Amen, Mama. People want to believe that they have some control over horrible things that happen and that’s why they make idiotic judgements such as the ones you mentioned.
    Guess what? We don’t have control over very much at all. Horrible things happen no matter what we do.
    I am so glad you wrote this.

  35. Alf Hucker says:

    @Heather Spohr, Odd how you’re claiming a wish for respect, when it’s clear these parents didn’t respect good parenting.

    @Adrienne It’s permissive twits like you that expect the world to bend its will for your lousy parenting style. No child, no matter how well behaved belongs in a midnight showing for a violent dystopic gritty film like TDKR, NO CHILD. The film is PG13 for a reason, but you think “Hey, I wanna see it. Why not bring my 2 year old? It’s my right dammit!” You lost that right when you bred.

    “I am confused. How do you know it wasn’t the “child” who wanted to go? How do you know it wasn’t a reward for doing something spectacular the child did that week?” Easy, IT DOESN’T MATTER. Who cares if the kid wants to go. Be a flipping responsible parent and adult and say “no.” For Pete’s sake, how hard is it to make the right choice? I’m sure you bought your 8 yr old Modern Warfare 3, cause he wanted it and it was a reward, right? Parents with your attitude are what’s wrong.

  36. Tijana says:

    Mom101 – You said “Maybe it says something about how desensitized we are to actual violence” – but why are we desensitized to violence? After all most people are not exposed to real life violence on a daily basis. The reason we are desensitized to it is because we’re bombarded with violent movies, violent TV shows and violent video games day in day out. And now not only adults are getting these images burned into our minds, but people are exposing their young children to it also! It is only a matter of time before tragedies like this occur when the airwaves are filled with blood, death and gore, and our minds get filled with such images. And to say that children are not affected by it is ludicrous, every psychological study done shows that children are very affected by violence they see on television. Look up the classic Bobo doll study by Bandura and Ross. A more recent study done by Huesmann shows that exposure to violent television and films in childhood affects people as young adults, 15 years (or more) later. (http://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2003/03/media-violence.aspx). So yes, I take issue with exposing children to violence at such a young age – because this will in effect breed more violence in the future.

    I too empathize with the families of all involved in this shooting – it truly is horrific. But to say that we should just ignore issues because it might be insensitive to the victim is actually not truly being kind. How about we prevent this kind of event happening ever again by going to the root cause? How about we stop filling our minds and our children’s minds with such junk that breeds violence because we get desensitized to it. How about we stop paying our hard earned money to the creators of such trash, and instead choose wholesome entertainment with stories of hope, joy, love, service, sacrifice and other virtues. So that when our children mature they go on to create a world that is filled with those virtues instead of growing up to be insensitive to life (at best) and mass murderers (at worst).

  37. [...] Spohr started noticing this tendency on Twitter in the first hours after the shooting. On her blog, More Spohr, on Babble, she reposted many critical tweets and lashed out at those who wrote them: Look. By [...]

  38. [...] rather than grieve and process this traumatizing event. Belkin quotes Heather Spohr’s blog More Spohr: I’m sure ALL the parents were prepared for the only realistic consequence of taking a kid to [...]

  39. [...] Spohr started noticing this tendency on Twitter in the first hours after the shooting. On her blog, More Spohr, on Babble, she reposted many critical tweets and lashed out at those who wrote them: Look. By [...]

  40. Rachel, Backngroovemom says:

    I just heard on TV … “all because they went to a midnight movie” — for real?
    Is getting killed a logical risk in going to a midnight movie?

  41. wendy says:

    You are so right. These are not the questions to be asked. But there are questions about violence in our society and access to weapons that need answering, and there isn’t time to wait. No family should have to grieve this way again. It’s chilling and heart wrenching.

  42. [...] Friday, Heather Spohr at Babble called on everyone to stand behind the parents in Colorado, and to not judge them for their [...]

  43. JROD says:

    This is not a “comic book” movie. It is most
    the violent Batman movie. there is no reason for a child to be at this movie.

  44. Two issues here says:

    Nobody is blaming these parents for their loss or trauma caused by the gunman. My deepest sympathies go out to them for this awful act of evil.

    That issue completely aside, bringing an infant (and probably the 6-year-old) to a midnight premiere is not being courteous to your fellow movie-goers (no comment as to whether it’s a good parenting decision for the children). I think it’s absolutely fair to raise this issue here.

    1. @Two Issues Here, read these comments. There ARE people blaming the parents. And really, do you think it’s an appropriate question to bring up NOW?

  45. Lance Sanchez says:

    We can judge and say what we’d like! It’s America! And everyone knows that taking a child or infant out that late to a theater is pure stupidity! Jesus, people should have a license to parent a child.

  46. Jon Smyth says:

    Nothing wrong with judging. Not judging the parents for the loss they suffered but for judging the parents for bringing kids to that type of movie to begin with. Your “babysitter not available but I still wanted to see the movie, kid really wanted to see it, it’s my right,” excuses don’t matter. You, as a parent, lost the right to be self-serving and weak once you bred. Judging is an integral part of society that creates structure and discipline, two things sorely missing from today’s style of parenting where permissiveness is the name of the game, and discipline is a dirty 10-letter word. Once you have a kid, you enter into a social contract with the rest of us that requires you to ensure that your kid is not a nuisance on the public at large. If, as a parent, you can’t fulfill that part of the contract, we reserve the right to judge the heck out of you and shame you into appropriate behavior. Those have always been the rules of the human “tribe,” because it prevents some dufus from jeopardizing the well-being of the tribe. If you can’t live with those rules (and seems like most aren’t willing to and are really quick to retain attorneys in order to enforce some sort of self-created right to be a giant pain in the behind of society), then don’t have kids. Thanks! And RIP to the victims of this horrible tragedy.

  47. [...] the same: within that article, there is also a link to this article by Heather Spohr, which sums it up really well: “The families and parents will be reliving [...]

  48. [...] Friday, Heather Spohr during Babble called on everyone to mount behind a kin in Colorado, and to not decider them for their parenting [...]

  49. Annalisa says:

    I think we’re missing the forest for the trees. Heather is not saying every and any parent has a right to bring their kids to a midnight show, or that other people should not bat an eye to that.

    It’s just an issue of timing: we can have the discussion of whether it’s appropriate to take children to certain movies at a young age any old time (some of you would be surprised to know how many parents actually do share your view), but perhaps right now, when parents are grieving about the senseless violence they and their children found themselves in, it may be time to refrain from the “I told you so”s. Is that fair enough for you people?

    Yes, this is America, the land of the free, rah rah rah. But that doesn’t excuse the tactlessness of playing the blame game with these parents. They probably blame themselves for what happened enough as it is, they do not need your help with that.

  50. Meagan @ The Happiest Mom says:

    I totally agree, Heather.

    And as an aside – I don’t think I would bring my particular 6-year-old to see this particular show at a midnight screening, but what is it with our stuffy American opinion that kids shouldn’t EVER be up late, or seen out in public after a certain time? Who wrote that “rule” and who decreed that we are supposed to abide by it? If my kids aren’t bothering you, why should it matter if we are out at 2 PM or 2 AM?

  51. YHW says:

    It’s not the parents’ fault that someone opened fire in a movie theater. But this is not the same as taking your kids to a kid-friendly matinee. The following still stand:
    1. It is inconsiderate to other movie goers to bring your baby to an adult movie because you don’t want to pay for a babysitter. Telling yourself your baby will sleep through it and not bother anyone else does not always make it true.
    2. A toddler gets nothing out of a loud, violent movie that will keep him out of his bed until about 3 AM. The kid should be at home.
    3. Movies have ratings for a reason and it’s not appropriate to drag a six-year-old to a loud, violent movie that does not permit them to sleep until 3 AM. One of the jobs of parents is to have sensible bedtimes and a regular routine.

    And as a parent, yes, I can judge other parents.

  52. [...] And then—thankfully—there were posts written that supported my thoughts exactly. [...]

  53. jax says:

    Some of you guys are saying that you don’t see any judgement in those tweets, and people shouldn’t be upset about them. Yeah, yeah, maybe the tweeters really didn’t mean any harm. I dunno. But this shouldn’t be about whether the tweeters are trying to judge, but rather about whether the victims would feel judged by these tweets.

    And really, do you think the parents of the victims would feel totally fine reading something like “WHO TAKES A SIX YEAR OLD TO A MIDNIGHT SHOWING”? I don’t think a lot of people would, actually.

    What’s the point of tweeting something that’s going to make some people in the midst of tragedy feel worse than they already feel? The least horrible reason I can think of is that perhaps the tweeters are trying to warn people not to take their kids to violent movies, but in that case, there are more tactful deliveries and better reasons they could be using.

  54. [...] Spohr, writing at Babble, was “terribly disappointed” by the judgment being thrown at the parents of children who were [...]

  55. [...] In the wake of the shootings in Aurora, initial reactions to learning that elementary-school-aged children were at the midnight screening of a violent PG-13 movie ranged from outrage and blame to empathy and an urging to not shame the victims. [...]

  56. Ginny says:

    I don’t blame the parents who brought these kids to a midnight showing of a PG13 movie for the fact that their children were injured/killed. I do, however, think that it was inappropriate to take kids to a midnight showing. I’d feel that way for any film, regardless of the rating or subject matter. I get the whole “Mommy and Daddy wanted a special treat, they have a small child and never get out” thing. I suddenly had to take custody of my 10y/o niece last year, going from single-and-loving-it-musician to soccer Mom. I lost everything I enjoyed about my life practically overnight (I’ve found happiness in this, too, but wasn’t prepared for the changes at the time). I’ve only seen 2 grown up movies since that happened, and I made sure I had a babysitter both times. My niece should be in bed at midnight, not at the movie threater just because I want to see a movie. And as far as little babies go….nobody else wants to be in the movie with a baby. Frankly, I think people who take babies into an adult move, especially at night, are me-me’s. To hell with everyone else who is out enjoying their night or got a babysitter for THEIR kids….they want to see a movie and that’s all they care about. Perhaps some parents take a screaming baby out of the theater, but the few times I’ve been stuck in a grown-up movie with an infant, the parents did not remove the child when he/she got loud. I’m terribly sorry for these parents’ heartache and I absolutely do not blame them for the shooting or the fact that their kid(s) got hurt/killed. I do, however, think that young children/babies have no place at a midnight showing of anything and I don’t blame others for questioning it.

  57. Jen says:

    Why was my comment never posted? According to Babble’s rules: Babble is a supportive, diverse community. We encourage a range of opinions,
    but any unduly hostile comments will be removed.

    Nothing I said was hostile. I didn’t call anyone a moron or idiot like the author did. I just stated my opinion on the matter, which also happened to be in disagreement with the author and a majority of the commenters.

    1. @Jen, this is the only comment I see from you. I also didn’t call anyone a moron or idiot, so I’m not sure what you’re talking about.

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