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10 Ways That You Are Setting Your Marriage Up For Failure

By Lamar Tyler |

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How do couples that have been together for years drift apart? How do couples that were so loving at one point, begin to hate each other? These are questions that we’ve all asked ourselves after seeing a split that we never imagined would happen. The best way that you can prevent these questions popping up in regards to your own relationship is by examining what you’re doing right now.

In a long term relationship it’s easy to slightly loose focus, only to find out years later that you’re completely off track. How did it happen, and how did you get there? It probably wouldn’t be a simple answer of one thing that went wrong, but instead a series of small steps that led to a path you wouldn’t have chosen for yourself. That happens often in relationships, and can ultimately lead to divorce.

To make sure that you keep the focus on your relationship, and finish like you started (or hopefully even better), we’ve compiled a quick list of 10 ways that you are setting your marriage up for failure. If some of the actions on our list seem too familiar, you may want to make an adjustment before it’s too late. After you view the list let me know if I missed anything in the comment section below.

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10 Ways That You Are Setting Your Marriage Up For Failure


This will lead to disappointment every time. Not to mention half of the people on Facebook are lying about their lives anyway.
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6 thoughts on “10 Ways That You Are Setting Your Marriage Up For Failure

  1. Fran says:

    This is so true! I never compare our lives to others on FB..most of the time their lives aren’t that great anyways!

  2. The Orange Rhino says:

    Wow, wonderful article. I had to laugh at the FB one. Just said to my husband this weekend: I look at pictures of couples on FB and they look so happy and in love and having fun….His response? Do they have 4 kids under 6?! LOL. Which brings me to the one thing missing: letting kids and exhaustion be an excuse for not putting focus or energy into marriage. Exhaustion and kids aren’t going anywhere – need to accept that and change what I can change: ME!

  3. Lauren says:

    This made me cringe because I’m guilty of not walking the walk and needing to remember that the only thing I can change is ME. Thank you, great tips!

  4. Lisa says:

    those were all spot on!

  5. Madison says:

    Look closely at this list… if more than ONE apply then there is work to do. If the first marriage did not work out focus on this stuff before you take it to the next one. Be willing to really unpack that baggage. As a matter of fact.. have that willingness BEFORE you accept his ring. And gentlemen before you buy the ring make sure you are going ALL in.

  6. HeatherRK says:

    I love this post! I agree with Orange Rhino on adding losing your relationship to the kids to the list. I’d also add Keeping up with the Joneses too. If you’re always coveting what your friends/neighbors have rather than being happy with your lot in life, it will put too much stress on the relationship. Be thankful for what (who) you’re given each and every day!

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