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How to React When Your Husband Says You Look A Mess

By Ronnie Tyler |

Photo Credit: James Ellsworth

Recently, Lamar and I were at the grocery store one Sunday after church. And let me preface this by saying, Sunday’s are lazy days. I am either watching movies, or combing hair, or doing laundry.

So after church, I threw on an “around the house” sundress and we headed to grocery store to pickup a few items.

On our way out of the store, the conversation went like this:

Lamar: “Ahhhh. What’s that?”

Me: “What are you talking about?”

Lamar: “What’s that you have on?”

(So now in my head, I am thinking what the hell kind of question is that. Who says: “Ahh what’s that you have on? Is this man trying to say something about my dress?”)

Me (chuckling): “What do you mean… my dress?”

Lamar: “ Babe, I’m going to buy you some new clothes. You deserve it.”

Me: “ So what are you saying.? I need new clothes. You think I can’t dress.”

And then I remember both of us laughing (because we are very silly with each other.) Then I said something like: “OK…since you don’t like how I look, I am going to ensure that you buy me some clothes alright.”

Actually, that conversation was not so bad. It could have ended worse, with me getting an attitude or taking the time to tell him that he didn’t look so great either. But since we’ve been married, I’ve seen a lot of growth and maturity in the both of us. And so, I try to keep a few things in mind when we are having difficult conversations.

Things like:

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How to React When Your Husband Says You Look A Mess

DON'T MAKE UP THINGS

My spouse did not tell me I looked a mess. But I surely translated it into that. So be careful that you are not changing your spouse's words into something that you want to hear. Photo Credit: Twenty_Question

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Lamar and Ronnie Tyler have used social media to build an online movement around promoting healthy families and marriages. The Atlanta basedparents of four run the award-winning website BlackandMarriedWithKids.com. They are also filmmakers and public speakers that have discovered their purpose through pursuing their passion. Read bio and latest posts → Read Ronnie's latest posts →

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One thought on “How to React When Your Husband Says You Look A Mess

  1. niki d. says:

    this line here: “Babe, I’m going to buy you some new clothes. You deserve it.” would’ve changed every ill feeling i had about him questioning my outfit! haha… i would’ve steered the car right to the nearest mall!! :)

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