Heidi Klum pays her kids to eat healthy foods and to drink her smoothies. That is ridiculous. If I’m going to go out of my way to buy healthy fruits and veggies, my kids best pay ME instead. You see, it’s my whole problem with an allowance. Kids should have certain responsibilities that come with being a member of the household. For example, you wake up in the morning and you make your OWN bed. Why? Because there is nothing worse than an unmade bed. But am I going to give you a high-five and a dollar? Heck no. Congratulations, you are doing what I’ve asked. What a concept. For real. An allowance should reward the “above and beyond” action.s Lately, the reddit community has been up in arms about a meme that someone posted about being paid for good grades. You can guess how I feel about this.
See, there are these things called responsibilities, and believe me, they aren’t always fun and games. Actually, most of the time they are a straight up pain. Things like waking up to an alarm (that one really blows), making school lunches, and cleaning the counters when I’m done. It’s annoying. But guess what? I signed up for it and I’m going to rock that puppy because otherwise my kids will be hungry and my house will be a mess. Is anyone going to pat me on the back for this whole motherhood thang? NOT SO MUCH.
I want to encourage my kids to try their absolute hardest at school, but if I’m going to reward them with money, I will just confuse them and set them up for disaster. Here’s why: The real world doesn’t pay you when you’re on your best behavior. Sometimes, you can work really, really hard, and still not get the promotion. I want to raise children that are hard workers and sensible do-ers. If they get a dollar for every good grade, why would they ever have any motivation to do anything if it isn’t tied to dollar bills?
Reddit seems to be in agreement. Loeffelux writes: “my parents gave me 50 bucks each time I got an A. I never got an A.” Sometimes, parents miss the boat. Children may be having difficulty in school, and rather than dangle a carrot (albeit a really pricey one), it’s better to look at the underlying issues. Why is an A so important? Why can I do to help my child achieve it?
The most brilliant comment comes from Wurz81. He writes “I resented the hell out of my parents until a few years ago. They made good money but I only ever got my $5 a week. Never any more. That made me get a paper route so I could buy a Super Nintendo. I’ve had an income since I was 11. Even when I went to college I worked part time, even though I probably didn’t need to. Still got honors. It instilled a hell of a work ethic in me.” Teaching children the importance of hard work is huge, even if they hate us for it in the interim.
That’s the problem with this whole parenthood thing. We stick our necks out for our kids and the majority of the time they hate us for it. I can only hope that they grow up and realize that I really always did have their best interests at heart, and I wasn’t just being cheap.