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Jeannette Kaplun is a Latina mom of two, TV host, parenting author and blogger. She co-founded Todobebé and hosted the Viva la Familia TV show on Univision, but is now devoted to her newest bilingual venture Hispana Global. She loves to help others. Oh! And she wrote the parenting book in Spanish Todobebé: Todo lo que necesitas saber para el primer año de tu bebé" .

An award-winning journalist and internationally recognized parenting expert, Jeannette Kaplun has over 17 years of experience on TV, radio, online media and as a published author. Born in El Paso, Texas, and raised in Chile, Jeannette is truly bilingual and bicultural. She just launched her newest bilingual platform for Hispanic women, Hispana Global. Jeannette was also one of the hosts for the Climate Reality Project’s live broadcast 24 Hours of Reality: The Dirty Weather Report, in which she interviewed Nobel Prize laureate and former Vice President Al Gore.

She has also been a speaker at major conferences throughout the U.S., Mexico and Chile regarding content, social media, work/life balance and online communities, including BlogHer, Blogalicious, EVO, LATISM, Blissdom, Hispanicize, Social Media Week Miami, SheStreams and SheCon.

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The 10 Worst Things You Can Tell Somebody Struggling With Infertility

By Jeannette Kaplun |

Infertility is a nightmare. You not only deal with  not being able to achieve your dream, or feeling that you are trapped in a body that does not work like it’s supposed to. You step into a parallel reality in which you are treated like a science experiment and in case that wasn’t enough, you have to deal with all kinds of insensitive comments.

Those remarks at times are borne out of the best of intentions but end up causing more pain to somebody who is already hurting bad. At their worst, those insensitive comments come from ignorance: people really not knowing what causes infertility, what the treatments entail and how those struggling with fertility issues are really feeling.

Since many are so unfamiliar with infertility, they simply don’t know what to say. That’s why it’s even more useful to know which phrases to avoid altogether if you have a friend who is struggling to conceive.

10 things you should not say to a friend with fertility issues

Here’s a list of what not to say to a friend who hasn’t been able to conceive:
 
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In case you are wondering, I did not make this list up. When I was trying to get pregnant, I heard all of the above. It hurt to realize how little some people understood my struggle and I vowed to help others understand. I have so many friends going through similar circumstances that I had to share, so those who love them, know how to really support them.

If you really care about your friend, be there for her during her fight against infertility. Be there for her through the tears, through the hormonal ups and downs, through the uncertainty and the feeling of lack of control over anything. Show her that despite the turmoil, there is one thing she can count on: your friendship.

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Read Jeannette´s blog in Spanish and find more of her writing here. You can also watch her on the Viva la Familia TV show on Univision.

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Jeannette Kaplun is a Latina mom of two, TV host, parenting author and blogger. She co-founded Todobebé and hosted the Viva la Familia TV show on Univision, but is now devoted to her newest bilingual venture Hispana Global. She loves to help others. Oh! And she wrote the parenting book in Spanish Todobebé: Todo lo que necesitas saber para el primer año de tu bebé. Read bio and latest posts → Read Jeannette's latest posts →

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3 thoughts on “The 10 Worst Things You Can Tell Somebody Struggling With Infertility

  1. Edward Ramirez, M.D. says:

    Very nicely written article that should be shared amongst relatives and friends. It is obvious that Jeannette Kaplun knows exactly how hurtful certain remarks can be…none of which help make the ordeal any easier. I especially appreciate the heartfelt intentions behind this article, considering the fact that many women are going through this same experience every single day and that many cannot adequately express their feelings towards those who are lucky enough to have children without any effort. Will be sharing on my twitter, pinterest and facebook for my patients and followers to read. Thank you!

  2. Cindy says:

    Yes! I wouldn’t say these things hurt my feelings when I was struggling to conceive, but I definitely got sick of hearing them. Especially the relax, take a vacation, quit trying and it will happen. I didn’t use birth control for 20 years!!!! I wasn’t stressing out about conceiving for the entire 20 years, just the 3 years we were seeing a specialist. We did a lot of relaxing and vacationing with no pregnancy. But I know people were just trying to be supportive.

    1. Thanks for sharing your experience, Cindy. Some people try to be supportive, while others are just insensitive.

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