This morning I learned of a North Dakota woman who will be judging your children if they come trick-or-treating at her door. It won’t be a silent judging, either. She plans on shaming them after she, and only she, has decided whether or not your child is fat. According to The Raw Story, she called into a radio station and said, “I just want to send a message to the parents of kids that are really overweight… I think it’s just really irresponsible of parents to send them out looking for free candy just ’cause all the other kids are doing it.” Well. There you go, America, ahem, North Dakotans. She would like for you to stop being responsible and shoving sugar and fat directly into the gullet of your children so that she can feel better about herself.
Look, I work in schools where children come in all shapes and sizes. There is an enormous change that happens from 6th to 8th grade with both girls and boys. A lot of the “baby fat” that they come in with is melted off and they have slimmed down by the time they’re nearing 14 years of age. Children are given the same media messages that adults get when it comes to how one should look and there are alarming rates of teen harm and suicide these days.
Her letter reads as follows:
Happy Halloween and Happy Holidays Neighbor!
You are probably wondering why your child has this note; have you ever heard the saying, “It takes a village to raise a child?” I am disappointed in “the village” of Fargo Moorhead, West Fargo.
You child is, in my opinion, moderately obese and should not be consuming sugar and treats to the extent of some children this Halloween season.
My hope is that you will step up as a parent and ration candy this Halloween and not allow your child to continue these unhealthy eating habits
Basically, she is hoping that you, her villagers, are able to stop being such crappy parents and feeding your children such awful stuff. I’m sure that for lunch you parents in North Dakota pack it full of lard, right? Isn’t that what you’re doing? A half a cow for dinner every night? Do you pour white sugar into the water your kids need to hydrate? Of course not. But this woman, who as yet is unnamed, has taken it upon herself to shame your children should they come to her home tomorrow night. She is disappointed, y’all. I’m wondering if she has a job in the health care or food and nutrition industry so that’s why she feels so strongly about it. In fact, I wish the news would hurry up and display a picture of her so that the entire country, her larger village, could begin judging and shaming her on her looks.
There is not one part about shaming children in public when they come trick-or-treating at your home that is acceptable. Many children go out for this activity with their friends. Can you imagine if someone at a restaurant refused your order and then declared that because they don’t like your looks then they are in charge of telling you how to fix it and refusing to serve you?
Children don’t need her message. People don’t need her message. For her to type up and distribute a deprecating missive to unsuspecting children is unfathomable and way off the mark.
As a mandated reporter of a school environment, I have called the Department of Children and Family Services on people who belittle their children like this woman is doing TO PERFECT STRANGERS. Emotional scars from something like this, should it actually happen, are long lasting. Cutting, eating disorders, and depression and anxiety are a few things awaiting the poor child who encounters this judgmental woman.
I know I’m being sarcastic in this post because her behavior is absurd. But I can’t let go of the fact that she misspelled “your” (she forgot the “r”) (I think she forgot it. Maybe she’s just stupid?) and her letter is missing a comma and a period. I truly hope that someone from the Grammar Police of the Greater Village of Fargo has sent a letter to her home shaming her about it.