I’m deep in the Minimalist Parenting conceptual zone, so I’m thinking a lot about constraints. Constraints aren’t popular in modern American culture where “you can do anything you want” and “the sky’s the limit.” Translation: LIMITS BAD.
In Part 1 of this post, I argued that, after basic needs are covered, constraints encourage creativity and resourcefulness. When you have to think about how you’re spending your next seven dollars or days, you bring more intelligence and care to the choice. Children aren’t the only ones who thrive when given limits.
When you get rid of the things you don’t love, there’s more room for the things you do.
There was a hush as the statement hung in the air — followed by a collective WHOOSH of recognition. Heads nodded wildly as 150 people took in an essential truth.
Embracing constraints is as much about recognizing the value of your attention as it is about getting rid of stuff.
Your attention is precious. It’s up there with your family and your health. When you embrace constraints, you’re putting a bouncer at the door of your attention. Only the best, coolest, most important stuff gets in.
Here are some ways you and I are embracing constraints:
- Doing certain types of work in specific places or using specific devices. Examples: Cleaning one’s purse while waiting at stop lights. Tweeting only from one’s smartphone.
- Living in a different country where there aren’t as many consumer choices. (Not necessarily voluntary, but saves the pain of having to choose between 40 brands of toothpaste. See: Paradox of Choice.)
- I’m only eating sugar and processed grains on Saturdays, and I’m getting reeeeeealy creative about satisfying my sweet tooth. I’m also trying foods I never would have tried otherwise.
- The natural time constraint that comes with parenting (again, not voluntary, and not always pleasant, but definitely leads to creative thinking and prioritization.)
- Every time you bring a new toy into the house, donate three old ones.
- Handling email for 15 minutes per day. With a timer set. And a smart email strategy.
- Doing anything for 15 minutes per day with a timer set. (Exercise, housecleaning, decluttering, chipping away at an overwhelming project…)
What will you limit to make space for something awesome?