Our 10-year anniversary was coming up and my husband and I were in a funk. We have kids, work, daily responsibilities – but it didn’t seem like we were a couple anymore. We were an “Us.” Us as in him, our kids, and me. We do everything together – all together. We’d been reminiscing about our honeymoon, the one and only time I had been to Europe and one of the last times the two of us had gone on an adventure.
So we decided it was finally time to reinvest in the “Two of Us” and used the last of our airline miles, booked hotels, and we were off. (Oh, and spent weeks arranging childcare with grandparents and friends.)
It changed everything. I won’t be so corny as to say we fell in love again. We already loved each other. But we reconnected in a way that just a date night wouldn’t do.
Here are a few tips to make use of that vacation time and reconnect plus a slideshow of our adventure.
1) Don’t talk too much. Or at least don’t talk about anything heavy. Bringing up the little things that annoy you won’t make for a fun vacation. Save it for the trip home. If you have a good time, chances are you won’t care. .
2) Pretend you’re dating. Ask questions, listen, and hold hands. I’ll bet you think you’ve heard each other’s stories a million times, but there are more secrets to be heard if you take the time.
3) When you do talk, try not to talk about the kids. Reconnecting means concentrating on each other not what your kids might or might not be doing.
4) Get it on. This is the probably the most important part of reconnecting. If you have a hotel room for several nights, use it as much as possible. It’s amazing what it will do for your mood, your interest in your partner, and your complexion.
5) Be up for any adventure. Our flight was cancelled, our luggage was lost for the first two days in Paris, and we missed our train from Paris to London. All of these could have ruined our vacation, but we didn’t let it. We had a great time, adversity and all.
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