Last week my husband and I had a relationship-defining moment. In the twenty plus years we’ve been together we’ve only had a handful of these moments, and most happened in the first five years when youth and alcoholism and early sobriety made things crazy.
It was a difficult thing, and there is much work to do going forward. But our marriage is strong enough to bear it, particularly because we’ve found in the light of day the issue isn’t as severe as it seemed in the moment.
One of the greatest joys of growing older is realizing that all relationships grow and change, even the relationships that seem immutable. I’ve had friendships bloom, grow, and become incredible while others withered on the vine and died. As they say, the only consistent in life is change.
Something we don’t talk enough about is our working relationships; for some reason, I guess because they are professional instead of personal, but they are still relationships. They need tending, nurturing, and yes – they too change. Many times they change not because of fault on either side, but a change in goals and strategy and, yes, even loyalty. And sometimes the relationship has to be completely redefined.
This is one of those times.
For about three years now I’ve been a hardcore member of the Babble writing team, primarily focused on writing about social media, blogging, and technology. I started a year or so before Disney purchased Babble as a media property, and I weathered many changes including moving from MomCrunch to Tech and Voices. I saw many amazing editors come and go. It’s been a hell of a ride and I’ve learned so, so much. I wouldn’t change that for anything.
Babble has changed dramatically in the last few months, and part of that change is how often I’ll be writing here. You won’t see me post nearly so often. This, in fact, is my final Babble Voices column; I’ll be sharing the thoughts that appeared on The Uppercase Lowdown on my own blog instead of here, but I do plan to keep covering fun technology topics.
It might seem hard to believe, but this change is welcome news. I’ve most definitely suffered from writer burnout over the last year or so (I also write for corporate clients, and some days I’d create 3-4 articles a day). I think I was beginning to run out of, if not words themselves, the enthusiasm for writing them. My other work has also grown by leaps and bounds this last year – thanks to hard work and luck – and this change couldn’t come at a more perfect time.
It will be so nice to have my words back. On to new paths, everyone.