Being a mother to a tween and a teen is a lot different than being a mother to a baby and a toddler. So much about my everyday life has changed since the baby daze days. The structure of my day, the routines, the demands, the expectations, the workload, and even my energy level are all very different. Even still there are some things about motherhood that never change. Moms need to take care of themselves. Trite but true, self-care should be at the top of our to-do lists. Unfortunately, that’s rarely the case. I know this first-hand because although I don’t have a lot of regrets in my life, the one thing I can say when looking back at the early days with my children was that I do regret not putting my own well-being on the list much at all, let alone the top of it! I still struggle with considering self-care as an imperative part of motherhood even though I know it to be true. The less you put into you, the less you can give to others, namely your children. Chronic deprivation of our most fundamental needs (sleep, nourishment, breathing for examples) is cause for alarm and still, we as mothers often put ourselves last on the list.
I have been working towards a more healthy balance between taking care of my family and taking care of myself but I’m far from where I want to be. It’s gotten me thinking about dream scenarios and perfect worlds and how, if how I could go back and do it all again, I wish someone would have made me sign a Self-Care Contract that included some of the following:
The best part about a “contract” like this is that when you break it, you just start again the next day. This taking better care of ourselves is a process, a practice and no matter how far off the beam you’ve allowed yourself to go in regards to self-care, you can always pick up where you left off. It’s something I’m taking to heart. It’s a brand new year after all and since my chosen theme for the New Year is evolution, I know it’s the perfect time to begin and to continue to evolve into the mother that takes better care of herself. Won’t you join me? Take one thing from the list right now and take the steps to do it; for you and for your family.