Resources for Prospective Adoptive Parents

One of the most common questions I get from people who are considering adoption are recommendations for books to read as they start their journey.   I thought it might be helpful to curate such a list that I could use to refer people to when they are seeking answers.  Here are some of my favorite books for people considering adoption. (Later this month, I will curate a list of my favorite parenting books, but most of these are dedicated to starting the process).


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    Adoption Nation: How the Adoption Revolution is Transforming Our Families -- and America (Non)

    While many adoption books focus on the prospective adoptive parents, this book provides a rich contextual look at all aspects of adoption. Adam Pertman explores the history and human impact of adoption, explodes the negative myths surrounding it, and tells compelling stories about its participants as they grapple with issues relating to race, identity, equality, discrimination, personal history, and connections with all their families.

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    You Can Adopt: An Adoptive Families Guide

    This book is full of practical, realistic advice from adoption attorneys, doctors, social workers, and psychologists, as well as honest, intimate stories from real parents and children. It's a straightforward read for anyone who is looking for answers.

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    The Adoption Decision: 15 Things You Want to Know Before Adopting

    This book is an easy read and a great place to start in your consideration of adoption, both international and domestic. It offers lots of excellent resources and offers good advice about how to prepare for the home study and how to select an adoption agency. Full disclosure: this book is coming from a decidedly Christian point-of-view.

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    The Whole Life Adoption Book: Realistic Advice for Building a Healthy Adoptive Family

    This s a life-long resource guide for adoptive parents to turn to throughout a child's life. It covers issues that adoptive children may encounter at each stage of development, providing tools for adoptive parents to best help their child with their identity.

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    Adopt Without Debt: Creative Ways to Cover the Cost of Adoption Expanded Edition

    This book is an excellent guide for anyone who has wondered how on earth they could afford to adopt. The author shares her own story about adopting without debt, and provides helpful suggestions for both budgeting and fund-raising. It also includes info on the many grants and loans available to adopting families, along with contact information and websites for many of these organizations.

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    Adopting On Your Own: The Complete Guide to Adoption for Single Parents

    Think you can't adopt because you are single? Think again. This book candidly covers just about every issue of concern to single men and women who are considering adoption.

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    The Complete Book of International Adoption: A Step by Step Guide to Finding Your Child

    If you are feeling certain that international adoption is how you will build your family, this book is a great primer. deciding on a country, locating an agency, determining adoption costs and wading through the overwhelming amount of paperwork. It also delves into emotional issues, including how to know when you're ready to adopt, anxieties about the health of the baby, along with the risks of developmental delays, attachment issues and other potential problems. There are also sections dediated to choosng an ethical agency, how to survive the wait, and how to deal with insensitive adoption comments

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    The Complete Adoption Book: Everything You Need to Know to Adopt a Child

    This thorough book is full of pertinent, updated information to help you understanding all aspects of the adoption process. It helps the reader decide whether domestic, private, agency, or international adoption is the best choice. It includes an exhaustive list of state-by-state requirements and even covers adoption by Canadians.

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    In On It: What Adoptive Parents Would Like You To Know About Adoption. A Guide for Relatives and Friends.

    This book presents a wealth of information for family members of prospective adoptive parents. If you are seriously considering adoption and wondering how to broach the subject with your parents, or how to share what you are learning with family members, this book is a great place to start.

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    Raising Adopted Children, Revised Edition: Practical Reassuring Advice for Every Adoptive Parent

    This book focuses on the unique needs of adopted children, providing a wealth of advice for adoptive parents as they contemplate the life-long aspects of parenting adopted children. The book covers explaining a child's birth circumstances and a valuable discussion about whether adoptees are at greater risk for behavior problems or learning disabilities. It also provides suggestions for contact with biological parents, easing grief, and acknowledging a child's history.

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    The Ultimate Insider's Guide to Adoption: Everything You Need to Know About Domestic and International Adoption

    This book is a great primer if you are unsure whether to adopt domestically or internationally.


Have you adopted, or considered adoption?  Are there any other books that you would recommend for prospective adoptive parents?


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