My post about the role religion plays in our family life sparked one of the best comment-section conversations I’ve ever seen. People from all over the religious/spiritual spectrum shared their practices and why they think they’re important.
Since then, I’ve come across two more fascinating takes on religious- and non-religious parenting: KJ Dell’Antonia’s NYT Motherload post “Children, Choosing Their Religion” and Katherine Ozment’s “Losing Our Religion,” the Boston Magazine piece that kicked off KJ’s post. KJ said something several of you said in the comments: that kids don’t necessarily need religion to have a sense of connection and belonging.
What matters is to find and strengthen those things that are important to your family rather than regretting those things that have worked for other families in other times.
Religion or no, in the comments, many of you said you consider ritual and tradition to be an important (and treasured) part of family life. The word ritual has such a serious ring to it, but rituals can also be simple, comforting and fun. In another recent post about easy holiday rituals, I said this:
It’s worth asking yourself what makes rituals meaningful for your kids. For mine, it’s two things: specialness (the ritual only happens on certain occasions) and repetition (the ritual happens every time). For them, the joy is in the anticipation of the ritual, and the familiarity once it’s underway. I also think that rituals foster a feeling of belonging; “this is something my family does every year.”
Now that we’re past the distraction of the holidays, it’s easier to think about ritual in its less-loaded, everyday form: the little things you can do each day, each week, or each season to insert a pause for reflection or appreciation. Rituals need not be time-consuming (or all that serious) to be special. As long as they’re predictable and important to your family, they will be meaningful.
Here are eight ideas to consider. See if one resonates for you.
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Does your family have a favorite everyday ritual?
Asha Dornfest is the co-author of Minimalist Parenting: Enjoy Modern Family Life More By Doing Less and publisher of Parent Hacks, a site crammed with tips for making family life easier.