NO. Not now. Soon enough, though, for we all know how quickly time travels. Next fall will be upon us in the blink of an eye. And while Caroline and I are most excited about what we perceive Kindergarten will do for the triplets, we’re also excited about the streamlining that’s about to go on.
See, as it is now, Caroline and I take five children to three different schools. And next year, the triplets will be attending the school our oldest goes to. And I gotta admit, the concept of dropping four kids off at the same place fills me with peace.
But do you know what fills me with angst? How the school will choose to split the triplets up.
I’ve written about this before. And I come to you today much the same as I came to you back then — unsure of which is the correct way to approach. Our conundrum in a nutshell:
They’re thick as thieves, but there is one triplet that does a bit better on its own compared to the other two… So do we put that child on its own and have the other two in the other class, thereby running the risk of inadvertently creating a chasm between two of our triplets and the third?
Or do we put the most dependent of the trio on its own in hopes of that child becoming more independent? I could argue either way. On the one hand, that seems logical, but on the other, what if that triplet went even further into its shell?
But you know where I landed at the end of the day? In a place that didn’t want to separate them at all. I mean, if they were twins, it’s a no-brainer. One in each class. Quads? No-brainer. Two in each class. But triplets who, by their very multiplicity, have been thick as thieves since before they were even born — back when they were nothing more than three tiny womb-mates. How do you take one and say, sorry, you can’t be with the others?
Still, maybe I’m being soft, right? I mean, one thing’s for sure — they’re not gonna be joined at the hip forever. Which is why I’d initially assumed Kindergarten was the time to rip that band-aid off and break them up. Which is why Caroline and I lamented the choice we had, as their new school had made it clear. They’ve never had a set of triplets enter Kindergarten together, so they wanted our input as to how best to divide them.
Which is why Caroline asked their current teachers (whom we — and the triplets — adore) what they thought. And we were surprised to find that they felt it’d be a mistake to separate them. At least in Kindergarten it would be.
Their logic was simple — changing schools and entering Kindergarten is already so much for a child to absorb. They believed it’d be unfair to ask one, but not all three, to absorb that plus the strange feelings that would likely come in the wake of being the odd man out. Plus, they noted that each of the triplets did a great job in class of developing their own set of friends, their own identity. And that neither were attached to each other to an inordinate amount. So, to that end, they didn’t feel keeping them together would hamper their individual development.
So it was their official recommendation to let the trio stay together, and rip that band-aid off next year, in first grade. And I must say, Caroline and I were relieved, as, again, we’d been thinking more and more along those lines. But what would their new school think about it? My hunch was that they’d recommend we split them up. But we met with them the other day, and boy was I ever wrong. I believe the headmaster’s exact quote was:
“I’d never even considered that (keeping them together), but now that I do, I can definitely see why that would make the most sense.” She then repeated the fact that they’d never had a set of triplets enrolled in their Kindergarten class and that they were very appreciative of our input on how best to do this.
So we all walked away with an agreement. That having all three of them in the same class was a viable option. One which we’d all continue to give some serious thought to. Which is what we’re doing. Giving it some serious thought.
And I think I’m still down with keeping them altogether.
What would you do? Anyone out there with triplets who had this exact same quandary? What did you do?
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