This year marks the twentieth Valentine’s Day I’ve spent with my husband Charlie. We’ve been through a lot together: we drank a lot and then got sober (which is almost enough without anything else). We tried to start a family and couldn’t get pregnant. When we did get pregnant with medical help, we lost our sons at six months pregnant. I’ve gained and lost hundreds of pounds (he’s done some of the same). We’ve gotten much older and more tired. And now, for nearly two years, we’ve had my mother living with us and struggling with massive medical issues.
It’s been hard, yo.
But through it all? We’ve stayed in love. Not always madly in love, not always happy with each other, not always connected to each other – yet that love is always there.
I cannot imagine any other man in my life. I love my husband fiercely.
So how have we done it? Well, it’s been work, but I thought I’d share with you what we’ve learned so far. These ideas might seem a big general and vague, but they’ve worked for us for twenty years.
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