We get asked to play weddings. All the time. We’ve only done a few for non-family members.
We understand why people would want an upbeat, couple band who are generally easy and friendly and whom most people think sing songs about their undying love for each other, to play their wedding. And, I have to admit, I have a lot of respect for bands whose sole purpose is to play weddings and big parties. My sister’s wedding band could do any song, any style and I’ve never seen so many people crammed onto a dance floor as I did that night. They also got paid more than we usually make in 3 nights.
I have a fear of trying to keep the party together as the wedding singer. It’s just never been my calling in life to suggest people get into a circle and see who can do the best worm (or as we call Jason’s version, the grasshopper). Ok, actually it has been my calling to have dance-offs if its “Baby Got Back” and it’s at my own wedding but not if I’m in the actual wedding band.
We have played some weddings recently, got paid well and, had some fun-playing our own songs.
I not only have an insecurity of keeping the party going, I have a fear of the following things:
A random grandma hating us.
Horrible, or any for that matter, requests.
Having to learn cover songs we don’t listen to or want to listen to.
Everyone plugging their ears and telling us to turn waaay down.
No one dancing. (dancing is a requirement at weddings, right?)
It’s a whole different vibe when you play a tour and people are coming to see you..what they paid for. It’s another when there are 3-4 generations of people wanting to get drunk and dance with their date to songs they know.
Just for kicks here’s a list of some of songs we’ve learned for friends and family-played them one time only:
“In the Aeroplane over the Sea” Neutral Milk Hotel
“Jospephine” The Magnetic Fields
“From This Moment” Shania Twain
“Baby I’m Amazed” Tim McGraw
“One Hand, One Heart” from West Side Story
“Kathy with a K” Bright Eyes
“Secret Sign” original song for my sister and her husband
(We’ve also changed the words to “Here Comes the Sun” for my mom’s 60th bday party and sang “Grandpa” for grandparents’ birthdays and wedding anniversaries, and then some sad songs for a couple funerals that I don’t want to remember)
Oh yah, and one time I played the organ hymns at one of Jason’s friends’ weddings and I kind of ruined the ceremony because I played at the wrong time. The minister had to stop me from the front of the church over the P.A system, “Kori, Kori??? Not yet. Don’t play yet. ” And the whole church turned around and stared at me. It wasn’t one of my better moments. So yah, I guess we’re not really a wedding band.