Let’s get to the crux of the problem here people: The word “bossy” has been dragged through the mud, and although it’s not a great word … It’s kind of ADORABLE! In fact, why on earth isn’t there a Bossy Boots’ mascot?: Like a giant pair of bejeweled faux-fur pink dancing boots that speaks in a high-pitched voice while dancing to a poor orchestrated pop song. Can you even imagine how popular that mascot would be at events with high-powered confident women? And nothing like inspiring a future generation of young girls with sparkles … right?
But seriously, the simple act of ending a word with an “sy” turns into something you almost want to hug. Okay yes, the one delivering the message sounds like they are still in junior high, but isn’t it about time people in power, in office settings, school settings, the government stop trying to sound so smartsy all the time?! (See how we did that?) Maybe people who use the word “bossy” are just trying to tell everyone to slow downsy, smell the flowers and chillax? Let us provide you with an example:
Take for instance this famous quote from Shakespeare that has been quoted throughout the ages:
“To be or not to be, that is the question.”
Now add an “sy”:
“To besy or not to besy, that is the question.”
See how it went from a serious life reflection to an almost drinking game? Who says you can’t ask big questions and be immature and fun at the same time?
In lieu of banning a particular word, how about we teach our children what those words mean, and the historical significance of words, and the damage that words can sometimes do. Here’s how “Bossy” is actually defined:
bossy: [baw-see, bos-ee]
adjective, boss·i·er, boss·i·est.
given to ordering people about; overly authoritative; domineering.
bos·sy³ [bos-ee, baw-see]
noun, plural bos·sies.
a familiar name for a cow or calf.
Okay, that was a bad example. Hadn’t factored in the cow part.
So … how about we try reframing words, owning words, and blowing apart their meaning so that they no longer have the power over us that they once had?
Besides, when we ban a word, some other similar word will just spring up alongside to take its place anyway — with the exact same meaning and negative connotations.
For heaven’s sake, we get called or were probably thought of as bossy all the time. It’s just a word, and eradicating it from our vocabulary won’t change its intention. Owning the word will.
Instead let’s teach our children, when and if they unfairly get called bossy, to simply respond “thank you for acknowledging my leadership skills with that adorable word. I am going to make an amazing boss one day. Maybe even your boss. Wouldn’t that be FUN?”
Now cue the dancing giant pair of sparkly faux fur Bossy Boots!
(Have we mentioned you get to wrestle it?)
And on Facebook because that’s where we sometimes hang with the cool chicks (and 6 dudes).
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