Why, Boy Scouts? Why?


The Boys Scouts of America decided that they needed to reaffirm their position excluding gays (their word choice) from leadership and membership positions within the organization.

Really, Boy Scouts? Your hateful policies weren’t bad enough? You felt the need to reaffirm them?

I am appalled. I am disgusted. I am angry.

I am also the mother of a Cub Scout.

A Cub Scout who loves his den and loves to go camping and has wonderful, tolerant, leaders.

My Cub Scout has learned about confidence and cooking and service from scouting. I like what scouting has done for him so far.

It is infuriating because this policy assumes that all homosexuals are predators and child molesters. This simply is not true. I’m not saying that those people aren’t out there. I am saying that Jerry Sandusky was and is married to a woman. I am also saying that the vast majority of adults — straight or gay — are not interested in having sex with children. Homosexuals are not automatically pedophiles and rapists. I find it offensive that the Boy Scouts of America thinks that they are.

I don’t know what to do. I suppose I could yell and scream and pull my bewildered eight-year-old out of scouts and away from his friends, but those kids aren’t the problem.  I guess I could volunteer and work my way up in the organization until I was in a position of power and I could help push for reform.

What seems wrong is that the Boy Scouts say that “focus is on reaching and serving youth to help them grow into good, strong citizens.” Well, how can we do that when we are teaching them policies of intolerance? That doesn’t make sense to me.

The Boy Scouts of America Mission:
To prepare young people to make ethical and moral choices over their lifetime by instilling in them the values of the Scout Oath and Law.

Poorly done, Boy Scouts. Very poorly done.

This came in an e-mail from our Pack Leader this morning.

What is Scouting’s membership policy?
Our focus is on working together to delivery the nation’s foremost youth program of character development and values-based leadership training.

  • We teach our members to treat everyone with courtesy and respect at all times and to adamantly oppose the mistreatment of others based on any perceived difference, including sexual orientation.
  • We respect everyone’s right to have and express a different opinion and adamantly oppose the mistreatment of others based on any perceived difference, including sexual orientation.
  • While the BSA does not proactively inquire about the sexual orientation of employees, volunteers, or members, we do not grant membership to individuals who are open or avowed homosexuals or who engage in behavior that would become a distraction to the mission of the BSA.
  • That policy allows us to remain united in our mission as an organization, and we believe it continues to be in the best interest of Scouting overall.

Well this is me expressing a different opinion and adamantly opposing the mistreatment of others based on any perceived difference, including sexual orientation.

I perceive a mistreatment of others based on sexual orientation.

I feel sick to my stomach. Just when I think that we have learned our lessons and evolved as a species, something like this happens.

I already took the time this morning to talk to my children about what the scouts have done — or really about what they have been doing all this time and instead of reversing a bad protocol restating it so we are all sure to know how intolerant they remain — and why I believe that it is wrong, and why it doesn’t matter if you are gay to straight or transgender or Christian or Jewish or Muslim or black or white or in a wheelchair. People are people. We are all the same. We are all different. It is all okay.

I don’t think yanking my son out of Cub Scouts will solve anything. I don’t want to support this organization. I don’t know the right answer.

I do know that I will do my best to teach my children tolerance and I will continue to speak out when I see this kind of injustice.

Would you pull your son out of Boy Scouts because of this policy?

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