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How to Handle Second Thoughts About Your Baby’s Name

How to handle second thoughts about your baby's name.

By Alexandra Jacobs |

When my husband and I alighted upon the name Seymour for our second child, a boy, we were thrilled. Both writers, we liked its literary overtones (J.D. Salinger’s Seymour Glass character! Muckraking journalist Seymour Hersh! Distinguished restaurant critic Seymour Britchky!); its musty whiff of both the royal courts of England and the shuffleboard courts of Florida (I am half-British, half-Jewish); and its customary diminutive: Sy. (I’m a firm believer that any name should have an exit strategy.)

Fearful that our ingenious pick would become more popular than Jayden, we waited until our son’s birth for the announcement. To my surprise, “Seymour” was greeted not with coos over our cleverness, but furrowed brows, curled lips and snorts of derision. And that was just the grandmas. Misspellings abounded. References to Little Shop of Horrors - “horror” is not generally a word you want associated with your progeny - were bandied about. How could I have forgotten that Salinger’s Seymour Glass committed suicide? Someone told me that there was a porn star named Seymore Butts.

My post-partum blues dissipated, but not the nagging sense that we’d made the wrong choice. Finally, one weekend driving back to New York City from apple-picking with six-month-old Sy and his uncontroversially named older sister, Josephine, I snapped. “If we’re going to change it, we need to do it NOW!” I shrieked. “Before he knows what his name is. What about Isaac? Then we could call him ‘Si.’”

My husband shook his head. “How can you cave to social pressure like this?” he said.

Our conundrum, I found, is not uncommon, as post-post-modern parents agonize over finding a name that is dignified yet playful; distinct without being weird. Jessica, a 32-year-old stay-at-home mother who lives in Bensonhurst, still rues naming her son the top-100 moniker Lucas rather than her original, more unusual choice: Lucius, which her best friend swiftly kiboshed with a dismissive “ew…sounds like the devil.” “Now every time we hear Lucius, we frown and say ‘I wish we named him that,’” Jessica says. I hear through the grapevine that a musician acquaintance is changing his daughter’s name from June to Juniper, though he refuses to talk about it – perhaps because he’s so busy with the extensive paperwork involved. My friend Mimi, a 36-year-old doctor who lives in Manhattan, regrets giving her toddler Solomon the middle name “Elias” to honor her grandfather Edward, rather than well, Edward. “Why did we have to be so hip?” she said. “I’d rather he had the sense of being directly connected to someone in the family.”

Whatever their cause, baby name regrets should be resolved briskly, before the individual’s bureaucratic paper trail (passport, school registration, driver’s license) begins in earnest; and decisively, lest confusion reign in the immature psyche, let alone one’s social circle.

As for Seymour, my mother-in-law’s eagerness to help me switch to Isaac perversely made me fall in love with the potential of his name - and him - all over again.

“He can be Sy when he plays baseball,” she said.

“Maybe he’ll play piano,” I replied.

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48 thoughts on “How to Handle Second Thoughts About Your Baby’s Name

  1. alias says:

    I’m pretty sure there are no Seymours in Rocky Horror Picture Show.My MIL telephoned us in tears and begged us to change our son’s name within a day of learning what we’d decided. My mother wrinkled her nose, and others in her generation told us he’d get beaten up on the playground (I tend to think that if a kid is going to get picked on, it doesn’t matter what his name is. Kids just pick something).People of our grandparent’s generation loved it. Parents of kids our son’s age love it. People our age and younger love it too (I was 22 when he was born, so I’m on the very young end of the parents of my son’s peers). His name? Basil.

  2. PlumbLucky says:

    alias – love it. Absolutely love it, as “Basil” was the name of one of my beloved uncles. Strong, mysterious, and all around lovely in my quiet opinion.

  3. ChestersMom says:

    Alias, I love the name Basil!

  4. Grace Emily says:

    Personally I love Seymour in Little Shop. He gets one of the best ballads sung to him (Hello Suddenly Seymour) and he’s the dorky hero(not a bad thing to be)

  5. ZenMommy says:

    so true. we are weeks away from having twins and talk about a
    challenge.  i prefer to not even THINK about all the implications, shut
    out others advice (so i’m not telling people which way we are leaning)
    and tp ask my babies to “let me  know” their names :) my husband and i
    have our top 3 picked out for each but will wait until we are holding
    them to make the final decision – FREE from anyone else’s opinions…
    this i know. thanks for the great article. i write about baby naming
    here: http://mymommymanual.com/25-weeks-back-to-baby-names/ Suzanne aka
    ZenMommy

  6. NoHo Mom says:

    Hey, I named my kid after a character on ‘Buffy the Vampire Slayer’. But it least it went well with our last name. It just seemed right.

  7. me says:

    Alias – more love for “Basil.” Do you know about the series of children’s books modeled after Sherlock Holmes called “Basil of Baker Street?” It is one of our fav’s.
    When it comes to the “making fun of your name” thing – I have to say – at my kid’s school she has NO Johns, Bills, Janes, etc. EVERYone has an “unusual” name and most children have “ethnic” names that reflect their Indian, Chinese, African, etc heritage.

  8. me too says:

    I’ve been feeling out my family’s reactions to our chosen name for baby #2, due in April: Oliver. I like the nickname “Ollie,” or, if he decides to sound more Jewish someday, “Lev.” One sister didn’t like it at first, but is warming up to it. Everyone else likes it, or at least has decided to tell me that they like it! But I think giving them all time to get used to it is a good thing.

  9. Lindsey says:

    There are some things you don’t think about when naming your kid, like how many times you’ll have to tell people how you spell the name – LOL.  I had to laugh when you said “as popular as Jayden” because when I named my daughter Jaedyn I didn’t think it was popular.  It was unique and I loved it! 
    I have to tell people all of the time how to spell her name and I always have to repeat it because people think I made a mistake when I told them the first time.  ;-)   I see what she’s going to spend her lifetime doing… sorry, baby!  Thankfully her middle name is a nice common Jane Austen name – I figure she can always change it when she’s a teen if she hates it. 

  10. JesBelle says:

    Before our son was born, I jokingly said we would name him Zaphod Tiberius — that’s the President of the Universe from “The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Universe” combined with Captain Kirk’s middle name. We named him Cary (like Grant or Elwes), but for about 3-4 days after he was born, I had trouble letting go of “Zaphod”.I love the name Seymour. I had cats name Seymour and Zooey.

  11. patricia says:

    Lindsey, we named our older daughter Caetlin (also without realizing how popular that particular name is), but the spelling of it confounds everyone, family included, even close family such as grandparents. They don’t even try, which is kind of annoying. I have also realized that she’s going to spend her life spelling her name for people. Her middle name is easy to spell at least, if she feels like changing to it when she’s older. Oh the burdens we impose on our children. :-)

  12. Basils dad says:

    My son’s name is Basil. We have an international family and it’s an international name, they love it in the Middle East and in France, where we live, they adore it: BASILE! The only worry is that someone will call him Basil Fawlty, but in the playgrounds of the 2010 I find hard to believe that kids are watching Fawlty Towers.

  13. chatty daddy says:

    Love Basil. I have read that kids with strange names are more likely to end up in therapy than kids with more common names. Which begs a few questions: is ending up in therapy bad (it could be a reflection of being, well, reflective), and what else can be said of kids with strange names? Are they more likely to do things that are distinctive things or succeed? Maybe slightly. I have a strange name and enjoyed it after junior high. I now have two sons with uncommon names, and may have a third oddly named child if we are so lucky.

  14. nameGame says:

    Sure, it may be tough to have an unusual name. But it’s also annoying to have an excessively common name. For example, for girls the names Sadie, Emma, Emily, Olivia, Sophia, Grace, Ava, Isabella or any such variant are totally over-used. They’re nice names, but I bet 50% of girls born between 2005 and now have one of those names or a variant.

  15. itchybrain says:

    Our first daughter was almost Freida, which I still love. We chickened out when literally every single person we mentioned it too laughed or recoiled. Even the aunt who is named Freida, said, “Oh no, don’t name her that!”. We went with the safe and lovely Elizabeth instead.

  16. JCF says:

    I was completely astounded at how rude people can be about a child’s name–especially once the child is already born and named!  We named our son Declan, and can’t get away from the questions about whether we made it up, if it is a girl’s name, etc.  We thought we were safe because we waited until he was born to announce the name–I can’t imagine if we’d announced it any earlier!

  17. coolteamblt says:

    My son is James, and I regret it. It’s been growing on me over the last year, but I find it so plain and boring. I’ve always been a name nerd, and going into pregnancy, my top three for boys were Theo/Theodore, Henry, and Finnegan. While I was pregnant, I couldn’t shake the name Gideon. I just knew it was supposed to be my son’s name. My husband hated the name. My MIL would gallop around the room yelling “giddie-on giddie-on! Ride him hard!” and that was the end of my quest to name him Gideon. I’ve since put my foot down and pretty much demanded to pick out our (still hypothetical) second child’s name. While I won’t ever get my Gideon, at least I won’t cringe inside when I introduce our kids. I’m not thrilled by how common James is, and how similar it sounds to all the Aidan/Jayden names because of the long A sound. At the same time, it’s my son’s name, and I love him. I’m getting used to it, but I’m not making the same mistake with number two.

  18. Meagan H says:

    This is totally my opinion but I think “originality” is over rated in baby names. Sooner or later someone else is going to use the name, that why its a name in the first place. I went to school with another girl named Megan(the really funny part there were also 2 Shane’s and 2 Josh’s all in a small school of only a couple hundred kids) it wasn’t a big deal, we were actually friends and mostly it was just funny.  What the name means and the what’s associated with it are much more likely to affect your kids . I fear little Seymour may be in for a life of Seymour Skinner and Seymour Butts jokes.

  19. Wilbur says:

    I think the trend toward unique names is just another way that the new baby-making generation is making childbearing and childrearing about themselves, and not about the child.
    Most of the examples in the article or in the comments are not focused on the child (who has to lvie with the name) but instead are all about how the reaction to the names has an impact on the parents and their feelings of self-worth.
    Naming your child Horace or Ezekiel or Ruby or Rhonda will do nothing to make them feel unique, just like naming your child Jeff or Mike or Emma or Meaghan will not make them feel like they’re chopped liver either. It’s about how you raise them. And there’s no shortcut around that. And, in the end, most of the parents (regardless of the names they choose) will do a fine job.

  20. Still a pretty name says:

    I find that people can be just as rude about popular names as they are about unique ones. I didn’t know Sophie was a trendy name when we chose it (it didn’t register as such in the name book we had from my first baby, I was mostly worried about the Golden Girls association, if anything) but since she was born it is astounding to me how many people will say “oh, yes, we considered the name Sophia but we didn’t want to go with such a common/trendy name”. So rude. Maybe if I had read Da Vinci Code or seen the movie before she was born I would have seen this coming.

  21. Melissa Andrews says:

    Everyone strives so hard to be different, which is a way of being the same. I kind of miss the days when you knew how to spell someone’s name. Now you never know. Many people change the spelling of names just to be different, which just makes things more complicated.
    I prefer more traditional names, but I sometimes regret that my son’s name is one of the most popular/common names. His last name is the most common surname in America. His middle name is a family name, which was important to me, but it’s also very common. His first name is number one on the list of boys names almost every year since the beginning of time, but its the only name his father and I could agree on. If not for that, I still do really like the name. It sounds good, it’s dignified and fits him.

  22. aloozilla says:

    Well there is always my kid whose name is Snow Isabelle. We find that people either instantly love it or ask “what’s her middle name?” and then say approvingly of Isabelle. “How nice.” Gak.
    However, at least I have a lot of experience with unusual names as mine is Skye Megan. Since I’m 30 it was way out when I was little although it amazes me how common it is now. I liked my unusual name but also went the safe route of a basic middle name for my daughter so she has choices.
    If we have a boy next time we haven’t decided if the unusual name will be a first or a middle name. It seems society is more flexible with girls. Thoughts?

  23. Kim Giacalone says:

    I named my daughter Lila almost six years ago.  It’s a pretty name and
    I still like it.  However, she is not a Lila.  She is a Jordan, an Alex or
    something equally androgynous. For the last two years she has been
    telling me that she is a boy and she has picked out her own name: 
    Kevin. Sigh.

  24. eyeroll says:

    That’s a very annoying reaction you get about your child’s name, Still A Pretty Name. It really confirms what Wilbur said about parents feeling compelled to choose unique names being about the parents’ experience of the name not the child’s. Who cares if Sophia is popular if you really love it? That’s exactly what you should tell people, “Well we didn’t feel the pressure everybody seems to feel these days to choose a unique name.” Throw it right back at them when other parents say mean things.

  25. mrslaurenleigh says:

    I’ve had a complete stranger look me in the eye and ask me “Why would you do that to her?” when I told her my daughter’s name (Parker). My mother groaned when I told her the name we decided on for our son (Griffin). Everyone has an opinion, someone will always hate it, someone will love it. We just wanted strong names that didn’t sound weird with our last name.

  26. ChiLaura says:

    Why are y’all so circumspect about what your kids’ names actually are?Are you scared we’re gonna come snatch your babies? So many commenters above describe the properties of names, but then hold out. Do tell!
    Our policy is never to tell anyone our child’s name before birth. We name uncommon but not unusual names, and we have a Hispanic surname. Jonah is our first; Manuel (“Manny”) our second. Our third was a doozy (at least for my conservative-naming parents, aunts and uncles!) — Iohan Hilary (and yes, that’s a boy). I was glad that we didn’t tell anyone his name before he arrived, especially since we took a “girl’s” name (hey, it was a male’s first!) for the middle, and since we have a funky spelling for the first name. We draw our names from the Bible or saints’ names. I almost felt bad using a diminuitive for our middle son, but there are a couple variants that he can use when he’s older if he doesn’t like it. I do, howeve, feel a little bit bad dooming poor Iohan to a lifetime of: “It’s Iohan, with an ‘i.’” Not to mention when some teacher calls him “Ay-ohan” or something. Oh well. Still love the name and St John the Baptist, and we just hope that he will, too!

  27. ummzak says:

    The funniest criticism I’ve heard regarding names was when I said I was considering the name Zaid (rhymes with paid) for my son. It’s an old Arabic name, and we’re Muslim, so it makes sense. This couple had quite a lot of nerve to criticize my choice when they had named their child Dishawn, which has no meaning that I could discover.
    I settled on Zakaria, and sometimes wish I’d stuck to my guns and gone for Zaid, but Zak seems to be OK for now.

  28. bkgirl says:

    when i told my brother, we’d named our baby daughter Aidan Rose, he was apoplectic. This despite the fact that he’d named his daughter FELICITAS, for christ’s sake. His response: “that’s like naming her Jack.” i have had moments of namer’s remorse (not so much as you should naming your kid SEYMOUR!) but she goes by Aidy and seems well-adjusted enough.

  29. ummzak says:

    Aidan Rose is interesting. If your daughter ever feels odd about her first name, she can go by A.Rose. Perhaps not what I would have picked, but not bad.

  30. Wolly Polly says:

    Baby naming is touchy because it is a matter of taste and no one really can be right or wrong. At worst, baby naming is a vanity project for the parents.
    I think people can get a little too clever and not think through the name properly. You need to place the name on people you know in real life and if the name fits (feels right) on no one then it might not be a great idea.
    I don’t personally know too many adult men that would love to have the name Seymour (and Basil would work for some european men I know but I am hard pressed to find a US example in my life that would carry it well).
    I do know people who would make it work through some bravado of embracing it, but it would be making the best of a bad situation. I think in a typical American environment, a boy named Seymour starts off with a disadvantage (yes its unfair but it is true) they need to overcome.
    As much as I love people thinking out-of-the-box and challenging norms, my gut say why make a kid’s life harder than it needs to be. You can choose a non-hindering name (Sean) and unofficially call them anything you like (Seymour). Kids born today are going to end up with an online persona that reflects who they really are (or want to be) anyway. 

  31. iamredmeat says:

    I had no regrets about naming my son Koah, and I left no room for anyone to make me feel anything less than confident in my choice. When my husband and I told people about the name, we said it proudly and decisively, and despite it not being some people’s first choice, everyone accepts it because it is his name. No one will always agree on every name. You are fortunate to decide something as monumental for a person as a name, and many people only get the chance to do it once, so do so with confidence, courage, and respect for the child, and do it for yourself, not for what everyone else might think.

  32. Name Overthinker says:

    Names are such a fascinating subject…when I was pregnant and brainstorming, I thought long and hard about everything I wanted in a name, and broke all those things into two broad categories. (A) Does this name sound intelligent, cultured, educated, professional? (B) Does it make me picture a handsome, masculine, attractive man? (The second time around, I modified this to a beautiful, sensual, strong yet feminine woman.) Thus I ended up with Dominic and Sylvia, and haven’t had a moment’s regret.
    Now, this is just my personal opinion…but to my mind “Seymour” fulfills (A), for all the reasons the author and her husband liked it. However, it falls rather short on (B)…I think of Seymour Skinner from The Simpsons, the character from the movie Ghost World, and yes, Little Shop of Horrors. It seems to be chosen for these types of characters because it has a fussy, nerdy, somewhat laughable ring. I can easily imagine Professor Seymour Lastname teaching semiotics at Harvard…but I can’t imagine a young woman passionately sighing, “Oh, Seymour…!”
    If Ms. Jacobs and her husband did decide to change little Seymour’s name, my unsolicited suggestion would be Simon. It’s just as intelligent/literary/etc. sounding as Seymour, almost as unusual, but (in my opinion!) far stronger and more attractive. It also sounds similar enough that he and his sister won’t be as confused, and he could still have the nickname “Sy.”

  33. MamaLa says:

    Names are a very personal choice. When someone tells me what name they’ve picked, I always praise it, despite what I am thinking. It takes brevity these days to tell someone the name you have picked. When I was pregnant, if I didn’t think someone would totally be on board with the name I picked, I would just tell them “We haven’t decided yet”.
    I named my son Charles Roland, after mine and my husband’s grandfathers. I laugh when I look at his insurance card, because it looks like he’s a 60 year old man instead of my 18 month old goober. We call him Charlie, and it suits him to a T.
    I tried to look at a name that was in the family (my husband wanted a Richard the III, but I shot that down) and one that would carry with him not only in all stages of life, but all professions. Charles Mylastname, attorney at law. Charlie, stop pulling the dog’s ears and finish your vegetables! Your 55th president, Charles Mylastname!

  34. Bec says:

    No one can convince me that a less-than-ubiquitous name will start a kid off at a disadvantage in life.  Get with the times, people; your tiny babies will go to school with children from all different cultural backgrounds and they will have classmates with *gasp* foreign names, too.  If your child is going to be teased and they have a normal name, they’ll get teased about their hair or clothes or manner of speech instead… kids aren’t picky about that stuff. 
    I’m thirty, and even I had classmates named:  Amish, Aata, Azusa, Morel, Sang-Mei, Lywei, and many more.  The kid in grade five who got teased the most?  David.  (I use him as an example because he’s the only one I clearly remember being teased at all.)

  35. Lalu says:

    I didn’t pick a unique name for my child because it made me feel special, I did it because I have a very unique name and I love it.  My husband and I also had other criteria based on our experiences and what we thought would be best for our children – doesn’t rhyme with anything bad, doesn’t belong to someone else in the family(I don’t want my kids to forever be ‘Little Sarah’ and ‘Little Mike’), doesn’t form a word with the other initials in the name, isn’t too hard to spell.
    I think it’s pretty uncharitable to assume that most parents don’t try to keep the best interests of their children at heart, even if what they’re doing appears totally bizarre.

  36. Aimee Grove says:

    It’s interesting that in threads like this you never hear from anyone like me who grew up with a boring, common name and hated it. I deteste being one of many “Amys” in a classroom or office, always saddled with a last initial during roll call. And maybe that’s why I always was attracted to guys with cool and unique names when I began dating and never once hesitated to strive for originality in choosing our son’s name. In fact, we specifically checked the Top 1000 names list weekly to ensure it was NOWHERE on it (still is not:  Tavish). What is also interesting is how the same people who think it’s bad form to give your child a unique name often don’t pay any attention to choosing a name that matches well with his or her last name or works well phonetically. We spent more time looking at that than worrying whether our little guy would be able to confidently carry a “different” name. In my mind, so many star athletes, writers, politicians and overall achievers in our society boast unique names, it’s hard to make the argument it will hold you back in life. Or at least that’s our theory … I hope he agrees, but who knows?

  37. BabyEvansMama says:

    These comments are so interesting because so many of them are boy names…I’ve found most “unusual name” discussions to be about girls. Remember, girl names should pass this test: Does it fit better in the sentence “I now present to you the 50th president of the United States Firstname Lastname!” or this one “Now appearing on the main stage of the Lusty Beaver, Firstname Lastname!”
    My husband is Evan the second (not a junior, a roman numeral 2) and so when I married him I figured we’d end up with a 3rd. The only time I even considered not using his name was when I found out just how popular it’s become. When my father-in-law was named Evan back in the 50′s it was a very unusual name. Even when my husband was growing up he was never Evan D. or Evan-the-one-with-red-hair because he was the only one in his class. Now it’s something like number 13 on the popular name list and my Baby Evan will probably be one of several by the time he starts kindergarten. But I feel ok about my choice since a) it’s a family name and b) it’s still a really nice name.

  38. EnglishProf says:

    I have one suggestion for naming, if you’re making a name of your own. It helps to stick to standard orthography for English, so that, for example, ae sounds like the a in cat. This helps a bit when it comes to people spelling or pronouncing your name, but don’t count on Caedmon being pronounced correctly. (Says father of Caedmon.)

  39. just another elizabeth says:

    I’m with Aimee, I grew up as one of a million Elizabeths and hated having such a common name. I was Elizabeth S. My sister had a more unique name and was the only one in the whole school with that name. I was SO jealous. Even as an adult I don’t really like my name. People automatically shorten it to “Liz” which I hate.So, just keep in mind that no matter what name you choose, your kid will probably hate it at one time or another :)

  40. MegsNo2 says:

    Funny, my two best friends all had the same name as me. We were always the three Meghans, from grades 4 through 12. In school it was like we had our own special bond, and we still do…something in common that can never change. May sound silly but we loved it, and still do.

  41. genealogista says:

    didn’t hurt Seymour Hersh any.
    “Creative” naming is nothing new. Check out this sampling from NEHGS’s ENews:
    In 1 Chronicles 4:3, Hazelelponi was the sister of Jezreel, Ishma and
    Ishbash. One example is Hazelelponi Willix (ca. 1636-1714), daughter of
    Balthasar/Belshazzar Willix and his first wife, Annah ____ , who was for a time
    a servant of Henry Waltham of Weymouth, Mass. (Register 5 [1851]: 13).
    She married firstJohn Gee of Boston and Marthas Vineyard, and second Obadiah
    Wood.FEDERAL CONSTITUTION (m): The exciting
    events of the Revolutionary War and the young Republic inspired many names such
    as INDEPENDENCE, LIBERTY, etc., which descend from the virtue names (often
    unisex) bestowed by the Puritans a century earlier. For Example, Federal
    Constitution Vanderburgh (1788-1868), a homeopathic doctor of Beekman, N.Y., New
    Milford, Conn., New York City, and Geneva, N.Y., was named by his patriotic
    parents James and Helena (Clark) Vanderburgh for the events of the
    Constitutional Convention, which took place in the year of his birth.

  42. genealogista says:

    It’s pretty silly to think that naming your kid an unusual name will make them creative or special. Just look at all the amazing people named John!

  43. Lacy Marie Hansen says:

    my sons middle name is seymour, named after his great grandfather, duane seymour. my mom kept telling me before hand when i mentioned the name, “oh that poor kid when he goes to school!” but we did it anyways, we named him Kellan Seymour and it fits him so well that sometimes, i just want to change it to Seymour altogether. ignore the outside world. do what you love. it is after all your child and you that will say the name day after day.

  44. kittenpie says:

    We looked for names slightly unusual, but not too far off the beaten track because their last name is so incredibly common that I thought they deserved a little something up front. We went with older names that haven’t been in vogue for a while but don’t sound like little grandmas and grandpas. My only regret is that the one we chose for the little guy looks very close to a seriously popular name so he gets called that by mistake sometimes.

  45. goldenkara says:

    We looked for something different, but something that people would know how to spell – or at least should. Raleigh for our little girl. It sometimes gets confused with all the Riley’s that have popped up, but I’ve only heard of one other adult woman named Raleigh.

  46. Jan says:

    My husband and I tried out every “hip” and “literary” name in the baby book trying to find something unique for our son. In the end, we both looked at him the day he was born and decided he looked like a “Todd”. It’s hilarious how many people do a double take when he isn’t introduced as a “Griffin” or “Aiden”, but we like it. He’s the only Todd in his entire elementary school!

    Our next son is due in a month and his name is going to be a flashback to our own childhood as well. After throwing around “Xander” and “Atticus” we’ve decided to name him “Sean” and I’ll bet he is the only one with that name in his class. Sometimes not being unique makes a name truly unique ;)

  47. Lolly74 says:

    Our wholly lovely name is traditional but at a low point in its popularity. (And we hope it stays that way.) Three sets of grandparents, three bad reactions: “Well it’s nothing to jump up and down about. I mean it’s nothing special.” Then, “Well, I guess my first reaction is that it seems kind of old-fashioned.” (from the man who gave me the name of my Great Aunt) And finally, upon hearing the child’s full name, “Oh, then what will you call him?” (where the first name is not commonly shortened in anyway).

  48. PlainName says:

    It seems the more unusual the parent’s names, the more common the children names and vice versa. My parents were Lester and Candy, my brother and I are Matt and Sara. I always hated my simple and all too common name, feeling it didn’t match my unique personality. I have a friend with a very unusual name and his children are Aiden and Eva, two of the most current common baby names. My boyfriend has simple and fairly common name like me- Jay. So if our future baby is a girl, she’ll be Lorelei Elizabeth. That way she can go by Lora, Lor, Elizabeth, Liz, Beth, Eliza, etc. if she doesn’t like her name. Options! We’re torn on boy names, but know the middle name will be something strong and commonplace like James or Thomas. I want our child to have a name no one in their class has, but I also want them to have the option of going with a more common name if they feel it suits them.

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