The awkward situations that foster parents face are endless. Something about foster parenting makes me cringe almost daily. I hold out hope that the uncomfortableness will eventually make me more empathetic and grow me as a person. Most challenging to me is the moment of ‘confession’ when I feel obligated to let others know that the daughter they are asking me about isn’t actually mine. It could happen on the subway, the playground or a party. The conversation usually goes something like this:
“Your daughter is so cute! How old is she?”
“Thanks! She’s three.”
“Oh, my other daughter is three years old, too. Do you need any winter coats? She’s outgrown them all.”
“Gosh, I have no idea if I’ll have her next winter.”
“She’s in foster care”.
What sometimes follows is “Wow, I could never do that.” or “What do you mean you don’t know how long you’ll have her?” or “I’d hate for my kids to get attached to her and get hurt when she leaves.” But usually the parents look down at the ground and then ever so slowly slink away. I don’t blame them. The idea that this little girl who adores me, and I her, will one day be taken away- well, that some heavy stuff for a Saturday morning on the playground.
Here are more awkward situations I’ve faced as a foster parent:
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