I just returned from a long three day trip across the country. It was the longest that I had ever been away from my children. This was a trip for work that I just couldn’t pass up and as much as it hurt me to leave my little girls for three days, it is incredible at how insightful the trip was not only for me in my role as a mother, but for myself as a person.
The days were packed with travel, busy schedules, and more travel, which gave me very little time to think about how much I missed my girls. I knew that they were in great hands with my mother-in-law and my husband. I loved the picture updates that I received throughout my trip because it made me feel that even though I was thousands of miles away from them, I could still know what was going on at home.
After being away from my little ones for three days, I learned a lot about myself. Check out the five things that being away from my baby has taught me after the jump!
Alone Time is Essential 1 of 5Just three short days away can really make you feel like a brand new person. I am so used to being around my children all of the time. As much as I love it, I don't get a lot of time to focus of me and my needs. These past three days have really given me a chance to relax, rejuvenate, and give me the much needed attention that I deserve.
My Kids Can Be Okay Without Me For a Few Days 2 of 5I was so worried about leaving my girls. I didn't know how they would react to me being gone for a few days. In my head I pictured the absolute worst situations that could possibly come to be. Of course that was me overreacting and being paranoid, but as a mother, that is just in my nature to worry about my kids. The first day that I was gone, I texted my mother in law so many times to check on the girls. After so many positive updates from her, I realized that they can be okay without me for a few days. And it is actually really good for them to get to spend that quality time with someone else other than me.
Its Amazing How Productive You Can Be Without Kids Around 3 of 5I work from home with both kids around all day long. You can imagine that I stop and start pretty much everything I am working on all of the time. It's impossible for me to sit down for more than 30 minutes to actually get things done. After doing it for nearly two years, I've become used to getting little things done at a time. It was only when I had a six hour flight that it made me realize how productive I can be with time to myself without any interruptions. I was amazed at how much work I as able to get done in such a short amount of time because there was no one there to feed, take for a walk, or entertain.
Being a Mom Isn’t Just Who I Am 4 of 5Being a mom is the absolute best thing in the world. It's so easy to get wrapped up in the day to day needs of your children that you forget who you were before you became a mom. As I was allowed to focus on myself for these past three days, it brought me back to a time when I could remember the things that I loved doing before I had kids. I had conversations with others that didn't involve work or children, but hobbies, passions, and life. It made me realize that although the needs of my children are of my upmost importance, I can still have a passion for other things in life. It felt great to be Lauren for a couple days and not just Harlan and Avery's mom.
The Feeling That You Experience When You Reunite With Your Children is Incredible 5 of 5I had the most incredible time on my trip for the last three days, but I missed being away from my girls so much. I'd look through pictures on my phone just so I could see their sweet faces. My flight home seemed like it lasted forever because I couldn't wait to get home to them to see their sweet faces and give them a kiss. That feeling when you walk in the door to be reunited with your children is like no other feeling in the world. My heart was full of so much love. I was finally home and just where I needed to be with two little girls right in my arms.
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