I was surprised when my friends, Deepa and Stephanie, sent a registry link and asked to throw a baby shower for me. This was going to be my fifth foster child and she wasn’t even born yet. Sure, the pregnant mom and dad were making an adoption plan at the foster agency and I was matched with them and everything was going well. But this is foster care, and who knows how the parents will feel once the baby is born, and have I mentioned I’ve done this already four other times?
Nonetheless, my friends insisted “You’re going to need stuff” and “having a child is really expensive” and possibly the most convincing was “sure you have a lot of baby stuff, but you can always use diapers.” Okay, I’ll do it for the diapers I told them. But NOT until after the baby is actually born and in my physical custody.
A shower date was made about a month after the baby’s expected due date. Then I was told to register. Ugh, it was so uncomfortable at first, making a list of things for people to buy for me. But then of course, it started to get fun. I selected items that were on the extreme practical side (i.e. wipes, batteries) to the unnecessarily lux. To my surprise, most friends skipped over the practical items and went straight for the cute, a bit overpriced clothes.
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