It’s interesting how much perspective a person can gain in just a few short months. It’s been less than 6 months since he was born, but I already think about what I would change about our first month with Tate. Obviously part of this perspective comes from looking back at a time where I was sleep deprived, hormonal, and terrified that if I did something wrong it would screw my kid up for life. Lately, I have been mulling over that first month in my mind and I feel like I know what I’ll do different next time.
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1 – Pictures at the Hospital 1 of 7I labored with Tate all through the night and that was done mostly in the tub. I ended up completely in the buff for almost the entire process, and as a result I obviously do not have very many pictures to show for it. For the rest of the day after the birth, I was so self conscious about my messy hair and lack of makeup, that I shied away from any pictures with my new born babe.
If I could do it again, I would have put on a little concealer and mascara, ran a comb through my hair, and smiled for the cameras.
2 – Video 2 of 7Another thing that eats at me is that we have very little video of Tate during his first month. We had my iPad with us at the hospital, and realized it had video capacity, but we didn't pull it out during these first few days of Tate's life.
If I could do it again, I would have taken a ton of video, and I know I would have cherished the clips of our newborn in action.
3 – Sleep 3 of 7The first few weeks, Tate (like most babies) slept a ton during the day and wanted to be up at night. I listened to everyone's advice and did my darndest to keep him awake so his schedule would flip. In hindsight I feel guilty about that. I am sure his schedule would have turned regardless.
If I could do it again, I would stop wasting my energy trying to keep him awake and I would have concentrated on snuggling my sleeping newborn.
4 – Breastfeeding 4 of 7I wish I had done more research on breastfeeding while I was pregnant. At the hospital, my husband and I listened to everything the nurses said like it was law. The nurse said babies only need to feed every 3-4 hours, so that's what we did. I went home overwhelmed and confused as to why the baby was crying minutes after feeding?
If I could do it again, I would have put that baby to breast as often as he would take it. I am confident had I done that, my full supply would have come in much earlier.
5 – Cutting my Hair 5 of 7At the time, all I wanted was a haircut. Something to make me feel pretty. I chopped off 8 inches, convinced that I would never find the time to do my hair. I am now impatiently waiting out the awkward shoulder length, cursing the day I ever made a major decision while under the influence of postpartum hormones.
If I could do it again, I would have gotten a simple trim and some highlights (I needed to feel good about some part of my appearance) and left the rest alone.
6 – Using the Moby 6 of 7My husband and I registered for a few baby carriers before we had the baby. A Moby (for me) and another backpack type (for him). Tate didn't seem big enough for the second carrier, and I couldn't for the life of me figure out how to use the Moby. I followed the instructions for wrapping it around myself, but found placing the baby in it completely daunting. I didn't end up figuring it out until Tate was more than a month old. I think back to that time and how much I could have accomplished with Tate snuggled to me.
If I could do it again, I would google "how to use a Moby wrap" the first week home.
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7 – Rocking Chair 7 of 7When it comes to baby gear, my husband and I are minimalists (me especially). If it wasn't absolutely necessary we weren't buying it. The one exception? Our super sexy rocking chair. Can a chair be sexy? I say yes. We splurged on a mid-century looking rocker from Urban Outfitters. Why? Because I thought it would look rad in my ohdeedoh-worthy nursery. Well guess what happens when you buy a chair you have never sat in just because you love the look? You might just hate it. The chair is so low to the ground that even though it's wide and masculine, my 6'-2" husband never sits in it. The worst part is that it has the shallowest rock ever, and what motion it does provide requires a lot of work.
If I could do it again, I would thrift a traditional rocker regardless of looks. There is no point in having a rocking chair who's prime function is being really, really ridiculously good-looking.
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What would you do differently?