Last year, I made a friend at my older child’s school. We’ll call her Annie. She’s awesome. Her oldest was the same age as C, she had a 6 month old baby too, and then we got pregnant at nearly the same time. Perfect! Friends for all of us! Except that her husband is in the military so she moved. Boo. There went my perfect mom-friend situation.
I do have other friends, of course, but most of them don’t have little babies for N to play with. That’s not so critical right now but in less time than I care to think about, she’ll want to play with other kids. In order to make some friends for her, I signed up for a new playgroup with other moms of young babies in my area. I don’t know any of the other moms so I’ll be walking into the situation cold. This is nervewracking for me. I’ve never shaken my adolescent fear of not fitting in. Actually, I don’t always fit in because I’m kind of inappropriate and don’t always have a good filter in conversation. And I swear too much. So, I’m always afraid I’ll alienate other parents before our kids even get a chance to make friends.
There’s also the issue of ending up in a room full of people I don’t much like. The DC area is a melting pot of different types of people – many of them rather…um…intense. You never know when you’ll wind up in a group with a very serious Congressional staffer with no sense of humor. Or an anti-war activist who carries a canvas bag covered in buttons with slogans on them. Or stay at home mom who never got over being a type-a Harvard grad and organizes birthday parties like they’re presidential campaigns. Sometimes it takes a little work to find the kinds of moms I usually like – the kind who hope that no one can see the spit up stain on their shoulder because they were too busy packing a snack of Goldfish and a juice box for their older child to change before leaving the house.
Here are some of the moms I’m hoping NOT to meet at my new playgroup:
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