Today marks two years since our Zinashi walked into my arms, and we became a family. There are many names that the adoptive parents have given this day, but we simply call it Family Day. This is the day we honor when Zinashi became part of our family, and Elvie will have a Family Day dedicated to celebrating her entrance into our family as well.
It’s been a beautiful thing to watch Zinashi become a big sister to Elvie. It all started the very first day that Zinashi saw Elvie’s photo with me on the computer. I was cautious, knowing that someone might have already inquired and been a good fit for her, but Zinashi had a lot of questions. She asked me point blank if Elvie had a family to take care of her, and I said no. Zinashi immediately said, “We should be her family.” To her, it was simple. This baby needs a family, and this baby is cute, so why not?
Different families handle child involvement in family expansion decisions in various ways, but for us, it was important that Zinashi understood Elvie’s diagnosis and felt comfortable with it. So Zinashi’s desire to be Elvie’s sister was indeed part of what helped us make the decision to pursue Elvie’s adoption. I felt it would be unfair to both girls if there was discomfort on Zinashi’s part; I didn’t want Elvie to ever feel that any of us didn’t accept her exactly as she is, and I didn’t want Zinashi to be afraid of what would happen to her sister. But there was never any cause to worry. Zinashi has embraced being Elvie’s big sister, and to this day she thinks that it was her desire alone that made us consider Elvie as a member of our family. Someday I’ll break it to her that it was actually Jarod and me that made the final decision, but for now, it’s her Family Day, and I’m going to let her enjoy her delusion.
In honor of this day to celebrate Zinashi, the girl who started it all, I’ve pulled together my favorite pictures of my two girls together. I am so glad that our first girl led to our second, and that we are all now a family.