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A Little Story About Pacifiers

By melissaejordan |

Everly & The Blue Whale, Arlo & The Nuk

 This post is about lessons learned. Specifically lessons learned around pacifiers. When our daughter Everly was a month or two old, we tried several pacifiers with her – all of which she spit out. She was constantly trying to comfort nurse and had a hard time self soothing and that, coupled with the studies that have shown they reduced the SIDS risk made me eager to find one she liked.

We eventually hit the jackpot with a version made by Weil Baby that I was sent for review on my blog. It was massive, took up half her face and made her look like a hockey goalie, but she happily took it from the start. It was a solid silicon piece with a large orthodontic nipple and we affectionately referred to it as the “Blue Whale” of pacifiers. All was well in paci land for many months until we needed to buy more – suddenly, every place I looked online and in stores was sold out. Desperate and down to one precious paci, I finally found a company that made an almost identical pacifier. Then they stopped making that one too (insert explicative here!) and it took me forever to find another all-silicone pacifier similar enough that she would take.

Everly is 17 months old now and the pacifier is her best friend. While we don’t let her walk around with it in her mouth all of the time, it does accompany her on every car ride, nap and bedtime. And trust me when I tell you that for the sake of your ear drums and your sanity, you better pray you don’t lose one. Otherwise, you’ll have to wait 3 to 5 agonizing days for another to arrive by mail.

We’re already deciding our exit strategy on the pacifier, as she’s quickly reaching an age where it’s time to say goodbye,  but I did learn something from the experience. We recently decided to introduce a pacifier to Arlo for the SIDS risk reduction and to ease his reflux.  When he spit out the first pacifier I tried, I went to another well known brand, and then another. I stuck only to ones that I knew I could easily find at my nearest drugstore. Eventually, we got lucky and he decided that the old reliable Nuk brand would work for him (insert angels singing!)

No longer will we be slaves to the world’s rarest pacifier! A hard learned lesson on our path through parenthood.

~Melissa

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Melissa Jordan wrote for Babble’s Baby’s First Year, where she chronicled the challenges and joys of parenting a toddler and a brand-new baby. More of her work can be found on her blog, Dear Baby, which is Jordan's personal narrative of her experiences with pregnancy and becoming a new mother.

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12 thoughts on “A Little Story About Pacifiers

  1. Richard Connectionzen says:

    oh my, this article makes me really sad. Kids don’t need pacifiers, it’s like giving them a huge ‘shut up!’ sign, and telling them you don’t care what they have to say, that their stress is unimportant, so much less so than yours.

    Here’s more information and views on this subject:-
    http://www.connection zen.com/index.php/Baby

  2. Kate says:

    Ugh, I hated the process of finding a paci that would stick! We tried three different kinds before our son decided he liked the “Gumdrop” type, I can’t recall which brand it’s from. Thankfully it’s easy to find and cheap!

  3. Kelsey says:

    I hear that my sister-in-law sent my niece’s pacifier away on a helium balloon, so I guess that made it clear that there was no turning back!

  4. sarah says:

    when my sister-in-law was weaning my nephew off of his pacifier, she cut the tip off the end and gave it back, telling him he could still have it but that it was broken. i think as soon as he realized it didn’t work the same as it used to he was done with it.

  5. Jennifer H. says:

    LOL, we learned that “hard to find passie” routine with my baby brother. That was the days before the Internet too… Mom could only find that passie at gas stations and I tell you, she checked EVERY ONE in a hour’s radius of the house for those stupid passies! With my sister, she make sure that the favored passie was of the common sort – which is what I did with my kiddo too! He only uses his passie for nap time and hands it back to me when he wakes up, so hopefully weaning him off it won’t be hard (he’s only 12 months old now). He doesn’t use it *during* sleep anymore… just to get to sleep. Silly booger :)

  6. Jme says:

    “Richard Connectionzen” get off your high horse, if it helps sooth the baby then so be it.
    the only tricky thing is getting it off them when they get older and attached to it..hahaha.

  7. Carrie says:

    It never occured to me to try so many different brands. When my baby didn’t take the soothie that came home from the hospital, I just figured, oh she’s not a paci kid.
    She’s 18 months now and there have been several times when a paci would have been nice. I especially wonder if it would have helped with the the car rides in the early months. She has a lovie, which is the blanket she was swaddled in until 6 months (she was a preemie) and we returned it to her crib when it was safe, she snuggles with it each night and nap.

  8. m.j. says:

    oh the joy of the paci…we also had to try a bunch of different brands to get my son to take one. luckily, he preferred the nuk brand. pacifiers are not about telling a baby to ‘shut up’ either!
    we finally took my 2-year-old son’s away in february and it was surprisingly easy. we took him to the store and told him he could pick out a toy if he would throw his binky in the garbage. he threw it in the garbage, got his toy, and never asked about it again. it wasn’t as bad as i thought it would be (and my son is extremely stubborn), so there is hope!

  9. Lauren @ with two cats says:

    First of all, Richard, ew. It’s perfectly natural for babies to soothe themselves by sucking, and a paci is much easier to take away (and causes less issues with teeth) than a thumb.

    Secondly – we have the same issue with the Weil Baby paci! We’re down to our last one and it’s like gold in our house. We also only use it for naps, the car, and bedtime unless she’s having some really serious teething (she can’t have any pain meds due to severe food allergies). Anyway – what is the newest paci brand that you’ve found? Maybe it’s worth a try for us!

  10. Nay says:

    Richard, are you a primary caregiver for a child? Have you seen a child cry around a pacifier? It is not a “shut up” button, as anyone who’s heard a baby wail with a pacifier in their mouth (half the time they are given one) can tell you. I’ve seen so many moms set out with an anti-pacifier mindset, and within two weeks, there’s a pacifier and both mom and baby are much calmer. I usually get over stress by cleaning stuff, drawing, or making lists – why would an infant want to “talk” about it all the time if I don’t? Also, shouldn’t a child ALSO learn that his or her desires don’t come above others’ needs (as you are attributing them that level of self-awareness)? Moms need sleep, to do laundry, go to the bathroom, cook, eat, load groceries into cars, wash dishes, none of which can really be done while holding a baby, and the mom has NO opportunity to destress if a baby is screaming at her the whole time. The mother will end up with pent-up stress, which will in turn stress out the baby (the phrase “if momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy” is based on truth.)

  11. Ayana says:

    I hear you when it comes to Pacifiers or as Kiwi calls them ” POWS”. Kiwi and Pow are like peaches and cream although at 19 mths old every time she has it I wanna rip it out her mom a throw it at the wall but for the sack of a happy little person I must maintain my composure. Kiwi only uses the ” Original Gum Drop Pacifier” which have to be ordered from Hawaii Medical Center ( gumdroppacifier.com). They aren’t too expensive so we stuck up about once every 8mths. These are the pacifiers that were given to us at the hospital and after tons of trial and error with store bought ones we stick with them. They too are solid silicon and they get the job done. Pacifiers entered our world as a method to help kiwi self comfort so that she wasn’t constantly comfort nursing and we have been ok. Good Luck with the exit methods because we are having the time of our lives with that one.

  12. ALBAIL says:

    neither of my kids would take a paci. for any reason. that was fine with me tho cuz i didn’t ever want to go thru what my sis did. her nearly 4 yr old boy would hide it places so he could have it. NO WAY! i see an older kid and wonder why at that age he can’t communicate with his parents. or maybe he can and like richard says…they don’t want to listen to it.

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